My next door neighbor verbally attacked me as soon as I walked out my door this evening. She claims that she has a video of me hitting her car. I told her to show it to the cops. She said she would. She said she was going to burn me for damages. I said to make a claim against my insurance company. She said she would Then when I got in my car and left she verbally attacked another neighbor who was standing outside listening to it. The neighbor who also got verbally attacked called management and so did another neighbor who is tired of my next door neighbor's crap. Maybe management will be able to do something now.

barbara

Dear Barbara,

That's just awful.
I'm sorry that you are dealing with this.
M.

barbara
It is good the neighbors are finally having enough of her drama. THe best offence is a good deffence. Ignore her and she will be so frustrated that she is not getting your goat. She wants to push your buttons and make you flip out at her with her friend ready to record it....I can feel it!

If you just keep documenting all the incidents, and look forward in a way, it is more credibility to you, and to have her evicted. The more rope you give those two, they will hang each other....

You can fume and rant inside, but don;t let them see it. Come here and let us know the frustration. Don;t give them the chance to provoke you sweet friend.

Di

Thank you Mari and Di. That is good advice Di.

Barbara

Barb
I think you gave her the right answers. And I'm wondering what in her life changed that she needed to start attacking someone again. I have a feeling you will start seeing her daughter was it around again more soon.

I get the impression she does this to get more attention from someone.

Donna

Hi Donna,

Her daughter was not around Saturday when she verbally attacked me. I'm not sure what her motive is.

Well, today was a stresful day. I don't know how much more abuse I can take. The management never called me back but it appears they listened to the other neigbhor who complained instead of me. My next door neighbor apologized to the other neighbor but all I got was grief. The management don't like me cause I took them to court a couple of months ago so now they are ignoring me. It is hopeless and no one seems to care.

barbara

I'm tired of the abuse so when the conditions are right I think I'll just beat the living you know what out of my next door neighbor. I'll go to jail but at least it will teach her not to fool with me. There is no justice in this world when it comes to the legal system. I'll get bailed out and will have to go to anger management. So what. I'm tired of being Ms. nice. Ms nice does not work here. A lot of people have told me I need to beat her to a pulp to get the woman off my back. I can not take this harassment any longer and I'm not going to. I sit in my apartment scared to even go out my door. I have to watch my back. This is no way to live.


barbara

I hope you're just venting to get rid of the frustration about how things are gong.

I'd hate to see you get in to legal troubles with an assault charge.

You don't have to be Ms nice , just be Ms Ignore her baloney.

She probably lives for any kind of drama, don't give her the pleasure of seeing you upset.

Isn't there any housing authority or dept that can help you find a different place to live?
A fresh start? What about a whole new city or town?
I wonder if some other area would have better resources for you.

Dear Barbara,


I hear you.
I really do.
This neighbor has something wrong in her head.
Leave her be. It is safest for all involved if you cut her as wide a berth as possible.
Remember that you do not have to solve the problem once and for all.
You're goal is to stay safe.
Do that please.

Can you call someone Tuesday?
Your domestic violence counselor?
Your tdoc?
Your pdoc? Get some extra meds to help you during this stress.

Your domestic violence counselor would be good to talk to.


Mari