I hope I'm in the right thread. Has any spouses experienced the feelings of resentment. Not so much for the TBI but for the new "colder" spouse> I've been at it an extremely long time. I often fantasize about running away. I have no family. I don't have a friend that I could trust with such personal info. My husband's TBI has made him a professional, charismatic "new" person to others. They think tat I'm the one that is being mean and abusive. The reason they believe this is because the "TBI Spouse" knows how to win points through his "outside personality." Now, I have to give credit where credit is due. My spouses TBI sense of humor is HYSTERICAL!! But, the dark days and nights are very dark. Throughout the thread, I noticed something in common. That is, why do the nonTBI spouses feel that our TBI spouses are taking it out on us?? There seems to be a lot of anger or something like resent.

I'm going through a similar HELL w/ my MTBI husband. He's extremely charismatic in public, treats everyone so nicely. I have taken care of him since he was hurt in the Line of Duty in 2001. I now have PTSD & Fibro. The PTSD is from the post accident personality. I walk on egg shells. I never know what;s gonna happen next. Lying and manipulation are the samething as breathing for him. He has everyone believing that I;m the real problem b/c his lying and manipulation are so good. NO ONE knows what goes on behind closed doors. My son was 12 yrs old when the accident occurred. He/s now 28 yrs old and overseas. He and his girlfriend are taking my husband's side. I'm confused b/c my son went through the hell w/ us. y husband has chosen to be my son's best friend since the accident. So, I was always the bad cop parent. Sometimes, I just don't want to live anymore. I have ZERO support. Sorry so depressing. This is my 1st time writing a peply. So, please let me know if I did something wrong. TY

Hi Laura,
I just joined the group today Not sure if you are still active.
People that do not know my husband, think he is normal. But his friends and family can see a difference. He is hateful to me though, Not them

Hi Missy,
I just joined the group today. I am going through the same thing. Husband is not the same. I am living with a strange person

I don't have a lot of answers either, but I also just take comfort in knowing there are others struggling through caretaking for a spouse with a tbi. We will get through this together.

My ex husband has normal pressure hydrocephalus and had surgery. Since that time he has turned into the most hateful person I have ever seen. The surgery worked but has completely changed him and I am the only person he is hateful to.

My husband has been taking all his hatred out on me as well.
Life has been miserable with him since his TBI

hi i look after my hisband with tbi also im in the uk x

I posted in TBI earlier. I have a dear friend who sustained severe TBI 3 years ago. I am still learning how he has changed and learning what to expect. Maybe, maybe, we'll be dating again after all these years. It's hard knowing the "old" and the "new" person

just moral support i guess

This is the hardest thing I've EVER had to do in my life. I am a young mom and have had to become the breadwinner, the only parent and learn to love a new man in my life....my husband...please look at the small victories each day, that is the only thing that has kept my head above the water (even if only barely). Know that you are on my heart and in my prayers...Michelle