[SDFencer]

OK, so I have had all these problems with my brain. I can't accept the new me who can't do things I used to, stairs are becoming more difficult daily.

The thing that is killing me the most is I am 60 pounds overweight. I have a huge dunlop and if I wear a t-shirt I tend to have that flap of tummy hanging out under it. (nice visual) I can't stand to look at myself in the mirror. It's not like I eat from morning till night. I do work out and have been doing the bike (I have exercise restrictions) and I have not lost an ounce.

Every once in a while I just figure I'll give in and be 300 pounds by the end of the year. None of my clothes fit and I just went up another waist size.

This just adds to the feeling that I have been a dissappointment to everyone, especially me.

Thoughts?

[ginnie]

Hi Fence, PM me if you can. I can help with the weight issues if you would allow. I have many tricks I can offer you. Keep in touch my friend, I am here for you. I lost 65 and still struggle, but I kept it off for the most part for the last 4 years. Hope you get other tips here. I am inactive as you know, so there are some things I can tell you about that got me under control. ginnie

[Leesa]

Bless your heart. I've always struggled with my weight. That is, except for a couple of years, when I lost weight for no apparent reason and I was GLAD. I felt great, but ended up losing TOO much weight and then found out I had breast cancer! Good grief. LOL That was 4-5 years ago, and I'm find now. Nuts -- back to struggling with my stupid weight again.

You know, I've finally figured out that I don't have to impress anyone. And I learned to love MYSELF for who I WAS -- not how I looked! It took me years and years to do it, but I finally did. LOL This country beats it into women's heads that we're supposed to look like all those gorgeous women on TV and in the ads -- but who in the world REALLY looks like that? Those photos are re-touched BIG TIME. And all the women I see at the grocery stores and at the malls sure don't look like those women I see on TV! LOL

So go easy on yourself, ok? You and I are JUST AS GOOD and anyone else! We may even have one-up on them cause we may be more compassionate since we know what it's like to get hurt! God bless & please take care. Hugs, Lee

[ginnie]

I am sorry you had to go through cancer. I know unexplained weight loss can happen with that. I hope your cure is permanent! As far as weight loss goes, I am for sure not perfect either, at 60 I am lumpy and bumpy and I dont' care. I do care that I can wear womens clothes again! I was in a mans pant 38! I now shop good wills, and look normal. I think that has been the best part. I also no longer feel guilty about an occassional meal out, or hamburgers last night on the grill. I never did get a scale and count calories, just watch portion, ate oatmeal, drank water, fruit. Very small changes can work wonders. I don't think anyone should do it, if they are comfortable in their own skin, I wasn't, and very much in pain with my ankles. Pain motivated me too! I just made small changes and changed habbits, thats it. take care, ginnie