My sister lies, and she tells some really bad ones. How do you like being estranged from your nieces and nephews because of the lies she tells, most often about my parents, but I'm caught in the middle because after DECADES of her behaviour, I've distanced myself from her a bit. I've had it with her destructive lies and her control-freak husband who encourages her to be some victim.

Every holiday, special day, etc, we get ignored. My sister was a teenage mother and has told her eldest that her grandparents (my parents) wished she was aborted. (it was the other grandparents who wished this, in fact, they were begging my sister to have it and wanted to pay for it). So now, every Christmas, etc, no cards, no phone calls, no nothing from the kids. And my mother has made considerable efforts to be in the grandchildren's lives. Horrible that the eldest niece even visited those same neglectful grandparents for some anniversary (they live in the same town as my parents) and couldn't even be bothered to call for a quick chat or anything.

I'm sick and tired, not to mention, angered by this kind of behaviour, but really what can I even do anymore? I wish I can change things, but don't even know what to do.

Welcome to Neuro Talk. I do understand about family being disfunctional. My own is too. You found a good site here to talk. I have met alot of good souls, that have helped me through alot of difficult times.
I know for sure, that you can't control anothers behavior and make them act right. It hurts when your own family does things to injure others in the family. This happened in my family too. I get sick of it just like you do. It makes me mad and sad all at once. You are not alone. I guess what we can do, is make the best of our own lives, and stick with the good friends you do have. sometimes you just have to let go of those who make you feel bad for your own mental health. Being around that kind of atmosphere is toxic. Keep coming back here. You will meet some nice people who will understand what you are going through. take care of yourself, and those close to you. ginnie

Easier said than done. Now,niece is bragging online about yet another baby she's having. News to me. It's news like this that unfortunately is more hurtful than happy because it's left for you to have to break it. Every "friend" on Facebook knows, but not her own grandmother? And who would truly be happier, a grandmother or 438 of her closet and dearest FB pals?

The people on FB may be friends, but you only have one family. I have just a few close friends, which I am blessed to have. I am sorry your family is hurting. I do too, over my daughter. It isn't easy to see and feel something terrible wrong with your own family. Hard on grandma too. Be strong, and represent the right, and be an example of good. I will keep your family in my thoughts and prayers, right along side my own disfunctional family. I know it hurts. Sending you a hug, ginnie

Thanks. My niece seems to be taking after her mother in the self-centred and thoughtless category. She used to seem so wise and kind, but I guess her mother got to her. She was "okay" just a few years ago.
I don't know if it's more meanness or just denial on her part. When she's related stories or anecdotes relating to her mother, she does so with sincerity, maybe not realizing that there are those (like me) who are in the "know" who realize it's a bold-faced lie. Maybe I should feel a little sorry for them, it's not a real, honest relationship, I guess.

Maybe I am just sick of feeling "in the middle", because I get along with my parents, but feel I'm getting isolated or frozen out along with them. I've always known what my sister was like, and can spot one of her fanciful stories a mile away, or in my current case, several thousand miles away.