[FaithS]

I had unusual, and uncharacteristic symptoms during this MS flare.

I began to solicit sex from people over internet swingers sites. Thankfully, DH found my emails and put a halt to it prior to anything occurring. I am now on steroids, and, hopefully the flare will be over soon.

Anyone else have behavior changes of a similar nature while in a flare?

~ Faith

[soxmom]

Hugs Faith.You always have such a hard time with these
personality/behavior changes. They must be so hard to deal with. Its
good you have a supportive husband to help you with this.

Im glad you are speaking up about this as I am sure there are others
out there that need support with this issue.

I hope you are back to Faith very soon.

[FaithS]

Originally Posted by soxmom

Hugs Faith.You always have such a hard time with these
personality/behavior changes. They must be so hard to deal with. Its
good you have a supportive husband to help you with this.

Im glad you are speaking up about this as I am sure there are others
out there that need support with this issue.

I hope you are back to Faith very soon.

Tries, and intends to be supportive. Sometimes, and this is definitely one of the strongest of those "sometimes", is much more controlling than supportive or helpful.

He has stolen my cell phone, will not allow use of home phone w/out him being right there, and has put a password on the computer so that I cannot use it without him also being right there.

Contacted an attorney about the legality of this, but, would likely take 2-3 months to complete any legal process. I am hoping he will come to his senses prior to that. Sometimes, I believe that he needs meds and mental health help more than I do when I am in a flare.

~ Faith

[soxmom]

Originally Posted by FaithS

Tries, and intends to be supportive. Sometimes, and this is definitely one of the strongest of those "sometimes", is much more controlling than supportive or helpful.

He has stolen my cell phone, will not allow use of home phone w/out him being right there, and has put a password on the computer so that I cannot use it without him also being right there.

Contacted an attorney about the legality of this, but, would likely take 2-3 months to complete any legal process. I am hoping he will come to his senses prior to that. Sometimes, I believe that he needs meds and mental health help more than I do when I am in a flare.

~ Faith

Im sorry Faith

[Dejibo]

Oh faith, first, you are NOT alone. When I am in flare, I tend to be...hmm...how shall I phrase it..."hungry" that is a good word. I am hungry for sexual attention. That is one of my clues that its a true flare. its not normal behavior for me. I have not gone as far as to seek it outside of my home, but it is during those flairs that I tend to feel less satisfied with what I have at home. I have come to know this is a "trick!" of my mind, and know that it will pass.

Also please know that ALL MS meds CAN cause abnormal thinking patterns. From A to R and C included. its listed right on the phamplet that comes with them. Please speak to your MD about this. It maybe a flair or a side effect of the meds. Please dont sit at home, and sit in silence. SPEAK UP!

If you feel your husband is being REactive, instead of PROactive, then you may need a go between. Seek out a female counselor, and have her as your referee. You have admitted that you are having an issue, and I think its not unfair to be met with understanding and compassion, but sometimes spouses can feel injured, or insulted. its hard to be compassionate if you feel wounded.

PLEASE dont sit in silence. Speak up. Lets get you some help. Call your MS center or your PCP MD and ask for some couseling. and remember you ARE loved!

[FaithS]

Hey Dej. Thx for your post.

Yeah, a contributing factor for the seeking attention outside was that DH is currently on a med that decreases interest and ability to have and maintain an erection. Therefore, I'm not getting much at home. Would definitely have preferred, even during a flare when my thinking was not clear, that interactions be w/ him and not w/ a stranger.

~ Faith

Originally Posted by Dejibo

Oh faith, first, you are NOT alone. When I am in flare, I tend to be...hmm...how shall I phrase it..."hungry" that is a good word. I am hungry for sexual attention. That is one of my clues that its a true flare. its not normal behavior for me. I have not gone as far as to seek it outside of my home, but it is during those flairs that I tend to feel less satisfied with what I have at home. I have come to know this is a "trick!" of my mind, and know that it will pass.

Also please know that ALL MS meds CAN cause abnormal thinking patterns. From A to R and C included. its listed right on the phamplet that comes with them. Please speak to your MD about this. It maybe a flair or a side effect of the meds. Please dont sit at home, and sit in silence. SPEAK UP!

If you feel your husband is being REactive, instead of PROactive, then you may need a go between. Seek out a female counselor, and have her as your referee. You have admitted that you are having an issue, and I think its not unfair to be met with understanding and compassion, but sometimes spouses can feel injured, or insulted. its hard to be compassionate if you feel wounded.

PLEASE dont sit in silence. Speak up. Lets get you some help. Call your MS center or your PCP MD and ask for some couseling. and remember you ARE loved!

[tkrik]

Originally Posted by FaithS

Tries, and intends to be supportive. Sometimes, and this is definitely one of the strongest of those "sometimes", is much more controlling than supportive or helpful.

He has stolen my cell phone, will not allow use of home phone w/out him being right there, and has put a password on the computer so that I cannot use it without him also being right there.

Contacted an attorney about the legality of this, but, would likely take 2-3 months to complete any legal process. I am hoping he will come to his senses prior to that. Sometimes, I believe that he needs meds and mental health help more than I do when I am in a flare.

~ Faith

Did he give a reason why he did this? Could you be displaying behaviors that you are not aware of and/or remember? He may actually be doing this to protect you. You already know you are exhibiting abnormal behavior in your "soliciting" so you may be doing other things that you are not aware of.

Communicate this with him as well as your dr. as it is important to your health and well being. It may be easier for you and him to go to your dr. together.

Additionally, is the flare your are experiencing from a lesion in your frontal lobe?

[FaithS]

Originally Posted by tkrik

Did he give a reason why he did this? Could you be displaying behaviors that you are not aware of and/or remember? He may actually be doing this to protect you. You already know you are exhibiting abnormal behavior in your "soliciting" so you may be doing other things that you are not aware of.

Communicate this with him as well as your dr. as it is important to your health and well being. It may be easier for you and him to go to your dr. together.

Additionally, is the flare your are experiencing from a lesion in your frontal lobe?

No MRI, so I don't know where lesions are.

DH has been very verbal about "other things", but comes up w/ minor stuff, such as enjoying music "too much" and characterizing it as towards manic.

Is basing current concerns on behavior prior to Sunday.

~ Faith

[FaithS]

Some things getting better; others getting worse.

Has given me back use of home phone and computer, without monitoring. Is considering, after 3 days at PV day hospital next wk, giving me back cell phone and car keys. Which are mine, BTW, and he stole. (Contacted an attorney about getting a court order to legally get them back, but could easily take 2-3 wks, and I am hopeful that he will come to his senses prior to that.)

But, after us both agreeing to me going to day h next wk, he actually called the police to our home today to request that, if necessary, they physically take me to PV inpatient hosp, even tho nothing had changed since yesterday. Of course, the police know their legal boundaries, and kind of just shook their head when they heard what he was requesting.

Today, I think he needs meds and therapy more than I do, to deal w/ his unfounded anxieties.

~ Faith

[SallyC]

Sounds like you and DH could both use a little of that day hospital. Some therapy by a professional could be beneficial.

My best wishes for you both, Faith.