btw.. HAPPY BIRTHDAY.. i want to make sure mary reads my previous post since this landed on the next page

He didn't like it that I moved so slowly. He didn't like it that I stuck to my faith. He didn't like it that I placed limits on what I would tolerate. I moved out thirty years ago.

I cannot tell you what peace, happiness and adventures have taken place in the years since--28 of them with my present (and always) beloved husband. My husband loves me, my children love me, my ex-in-laws love me and have rediscovered me. The friends I have met on line share the unique viewpoint of PWP, and they love me, too. And I am just an ordinary person with a full measure of flaws.

I wish you a fun birthday, mary frances, and many, many more.

Jaye

Oh thank you, Harley.

xoxo

Mary,

It sounds like you've been a little stressed, stress is always more difficult when it aggravates are day to day cylces, especially our sleep cycle. I'm curious, how do you usually deal with stress? Where do you go? What do you like to do? Who do you like to spend time with?

Sorry, Mary Frances, I am late to wish you a happy birthday, and I hope you and the girls tied one on. And that the light of dawn is showing up somewhere in the distance...

But as of last night, I, too joined the statistic and left my husband of 29 years, and I will say it's totally PD-related reasons.

I am very grateful and lucky tho to have a boyfriend who wants to marry me and seems to love and thrive on taking care of me. But breaking up with the man I've spent most of my life with is enormously painful. I just couldn't stand to see him use me as a reason not to move forward in his own life and be so resentful about it. I don't think it has to be that way, but somehow that's where our dynamic went. Even to the point where he was saying "Now you're getting better, but I'm just falling behind in my own life..." But I realized he will never feel free, and always think of me as a reason for his own failure unless I really do show him he doesn't have to worry about me.

It's very hard and sad. The things that happen are so complicated. I'm a little overwhelmed right now.

God bless all you wonderful people on this board. And Mary Frances, please continue your birthday celebration - I am sending a big virtual Mango Mohito just for you. Or whatevah. Lotsa love...

Wow!..Seems like theres an epidemic of this going around..Sorry to hear about the pain you've been through because of it..When I found out I had pd, and began to accept it, and thought about exactly what it all meant in relation to life as I knew it..getting ahead in life no longer had a meaning..Unfortunately, untill some people end up like us, with a disability, they dont understand what is really important, so they focus on success, or lack there of

I LOVE to go to the beach. In fact, that's where I went on my b-day yesterday... all alone. It was a gorgeous day.......sunny, warm, beautiful........The ocean was blue, then green, then blue, then green, etc. I loved the solitude. I was even lucky enough to spot a dolphin leaping completely out of the water, twice. Fantastic! I got in the water and splashed and got completely wet. The waves were wonderful! I felt at peace for a change. I wish I could've stayed longer.

Fiona,

This isn't going to 'fit the mold" of a typical post for someone who has had something quite shocking happen to their lives - even if it was expected.

I sense a deep well of humor in you Fiona and as sad as i feel for your husband and for the significance of it all, I am smiling at the fact that you have put out some concentration of energy and effort in the forum in the last few weeks at the same time as your marriage broke.

i like it when we get your attention tho - if not the reason for it- and glad that you are comforted by it - those are the best words anyone who posts here could hear.

I have been through a separation and falling apart of family, but after several years we are reuniting as adults - well almost - come to think about it - my grandson is the most mature of the pack..lol

it's not a marriage, just a family.

I see myself in how you feel minus the boyfriend. lol a problem unique to pD is one of psychological/ emotional rigidity as well. This can translate into lack of energy for extreme emotion - emotional mask.

I know what emotion works best for me and that's humor. it is a working section of my brain with fully functioning receptors and self rewarding expressors. Even when I am not funny to others, i make myself laugh and that's all that counts.

So why i laughed at Fiona - she has had a med pulled, trying mucuna, thinks spiritually, is open minded, leaves her husband of 29 years shortly after she posted some rational, well expesssed and caring thoughts here about discovering toxic foods - but finishes wth having a boyfriend who wants to marry her.....you just reminded me of Carey on Sex in the city in that post.

hope you received that as a compliment -i t was meant to be! - all of it!!
paula

Thanks, Fiona
I really like you a lot !

We are going out Saturday for my bday
and i do plan to tie one on! Wanna come?

Mary

if I "tied one on" it would be 2 teaspoons of any good wine,
and I would be asleep?
perhaps a fuzzy navel - until the fuzzy turned into an
eyelids closing for only a moment -then awakening at 5 am

yet for you two Salut...a toast
Young love -- so naive, so immature, so unsophisticated, yet ever so charming! Every generation warns the next of the heartaches and the heartbreaks that come with this love. Yet, each generation is eager to experience love. Authors have tried to express the happy occurrence we call young love - on to the next...
to your health Mary and Fiona...

I do not know that I will ever marry? again.

I am happy -alone but not necessarily lonely...
there is a place in solitude - with God - called peace...
I must have.
I have watch loved ones pass away - and I can't wait to see them again.
I have many friends - close family -my family fights and makes up -
we can tell each other -go away - and then ... and it's okay again.

true luv is as much as I can manage - the brotherly luv-
-I do not have a dog /dawg -either -ruff? and cats no one owns -

just be thankful and try to be happy as much as you can.
and live each day to the full - do not waste one drop.