[Aussie99]

For those of you that know, I am not married anymore, I just did not want to write the S word in my post. I am assuming people know what I mean by marital activity. I have posted in spinal disorders too and need advice as my surgeon has turned out to be a real gem of a human being.

I am 3 1/2 weeks post lumbar disectomy. L3-L4 & L4-L5. My surgeon said it was ok to resume "marital" activity. So I tried it, (normal activity,nothing wild), and my tail bone felt soar afterwards. My tailbone is still soar 2 days later. I still have sciatica as well mostly in one leg but slightly in the other too. It was the tailbone pain that brought me to he hospital emergency to begin with. I feel no better pain wise. I called surgeon to tell him and he was dismissive of me and said "he wasn't the right person to ask about those things" (meaning the activity) and the tailbone pain has nothing to do with my spine. Last I checked the tailbone is the part of the spine. Anyways I am very upset because I have fallen through the medical cracks. I have a surgeon who doesn't want to provide any post-op care. I have pain in my tailbone and am worried I have done something to myself. I have pain in legs that is not any better. I am wondering if the tailbone pain means re-herniation, or just don't do that again and it will settle down. I have nobody to talk to about this.