I think I look at this question a bit differently. I think dealing with a chronic condition like this goes in stages. I have dealt with my condition for 19 years now and I have gone through times of anger, denial, acceptance, etc...just like stages of grieving, because you are grieving, in a way. Grieving the life you once had.

You will miss the things you used to do, but find appreciation for new things you discover. You will get angry when you cannot accomplish tasks that were once easy, but then you will have a whole new sense of achievement when you are successful with other things (even ones on a smaller scale).

The most important thing to realize is that you need to treasure each day you have and make the most of it...whether it's a good or bad day. If you look hard enough if you will find good in every day...and this is what you need to focus on.

In other words, focus on what you still have and new things that you are appreciating, and not on what you have lost.

Hi Cliffman,

There are so many wise words here that I agree with. I too went through stages of grieving. What we go through is a loss of ability and it is terribly, tragically sad. Having life turned upside down is a challenge for anyone and getting stuck is not uncommon.

I found myself in a deep, dark hole full of despair, in spite of a supportive family, child to raise and much to be grateful for. It took the help of a professional counselor who specialized in chronic pain and traumatic life change to help me move forward. She also helped me work on coping skills to deal with pain. With CRPS and a nerve injury I need them! I truly feel she helped me get my life back.

If you find that you are struggling with depression and anxiety that don't lift, please consider getting help for the journey. It can make a tremendous difference in reaching acceptance more quickly and more fully than can sometimes be done alone.

Hold on to hope, and keep gently testing your limits and trying new things. You will be astounded at the strength and resilience you have and the amount of joy you will still find in life.