Had to rescue my son from his abusive g/f
 

got a call in the dead of night that g/f went wild. tried to scratch his eyes out, punched him in the head like a full grown man, and tried to break his glasses to peices. From what I hear she was out of control. The cops were called, and they hauled her off to cool off with them while I could come get the boy.

Broken hearted, sad, depressed, and feeling like he could have done more to fix it we piled him into the truck with what few possessions he has left. She keeps burning them when she gets mad.

Everything he owns REEKS of cat pee! what a nasty hovel. So, the boy is home with me. Please say a prayer for this wounded spirit. He has some work to do.

Just my humble opinion but I think a restraining order is needed. She needs to know he's serious about getting her out of his life.

You've got alot of self control. I think "Mamma Bear" might emerge if someone treated one of my kids like that. :mad:

So sorry Dej :hug:. I'll be praying for you both. Kelly is right about the restraining order. I don't know if the police take this as seriously as they should when it's a woman abusing a man.

He's probably been brainwashed by her and still feeling guilt for something that is not his fault. Maybe the local domestic violence center would be able to help him.

Personally, if you have a concealed carry law in your state, I'd get me one...restraining orders have no real power with the insane, IMHO...

your boy needs some heavy duty counseling to figure out why he feels he deserves this treatment...poor boy...my prayers for him, and you his mom...its so difficult to see our babies in pain and suffering...:grouphug:

I have watched this saga unfold. In the last few months I have had the pleasure of getting to know your dear boy. Can I suggest getting a new phone and it is worth paying the extra $5.00 a month to keep her number blocked. Unfortunately, he cannot move on until he is ready. One day the light bulb will go off.

For me, I left DDs dad and his whole family guilted me about it every day. I was second guessing myself for a long while. Then she had to have an emergency surgery. The doctor told me that friday that it had to be done first thing Saturday morning. I called her dad who was at work at the time and let him know. The next morning he was on his way to Nags Head with his friends and I was on my way to the hospital with my baby girl. The light bulb came on over my head and I never again felt guilty for walking away from him.

Be thankful there are no children involved in this rotten situation and therefor no reason why they need to keep in touch. Once he finds his true worth, and fixes himself, he will see the rewards.

Progress is being made.

#1 Trust me, the girl aint showing up here. nothing would please me more, but she aint that stupid, and she is manipulating and calculating. Bad move to come to my door.

#2 new phone # happening tomorrow. for today, his phone is OFF! He started to communicate with her, but I took his phone.

#3 we have a letter of resilation of lease. Meaning he felt unsafe enough in that home that the police had to be called (incident report is on its way) and under CT law he has 30 days to notify the landlord in writing that he vacated the premesis in fear for his safety or the safety of a child in his care. I have the letter to the landlord written, and ready, just need to get cops report faxed tomorrow. He is legally no longer obligated to that hugely expensive house she demanded they rent.

#4 I threw away about half his clothes and am washing the other half. DH is outside wiping down the rest of his cat peed belongings.

#5 humane officer will be called tomorrow. No way will I let those animals stay in that house!

#6 he is safe, and protected here. He has much work to do, but he couldnt ask to land in a better spot to get started. His church mentor will be here tomorrow to talk to him about opportunities, and We are set up to do some soup kitchen work tomorrow as well. Nothing shows you how lucky you are till you see those who have even less.

Yes, he is still messed up in the head from her lies, manipulations, and the way she baits him into an arguement is truly masterful work. She is skilled at what she does. She shant come within a mile of MY home with or without a restraining order or she shall meet the full length of my measuring stick. I am well trained, well armed, and wont hesitate to protect this broken boy. Abuse is abuse no matter whether its a male or female that is being abused.

Now, I need to get him up, and start him accepting responsibility for the things he is responsible for, and helping him untangle yesterday so he can step into tomorrow.

Keep up the prayers, I truly believe they work miracles.

Sounds like she needs to be launched into orbit...of Pluto (pretty far away. It'd take her a long time to get back)

Hopefully she'll figure out what a schmuck she is and leave him alone. (not betting on it)

Change all your phone numbers, get a restraining order, get a conceal carry permit, or a taser...baseball bat...whatever. Tell your son he needs to just walk away (run!) and get away from her. She's not worth the trouble.

She's been destroying your son's stuff, but it's only stuff. He can get new stuff. But she's also destroying any faith he might have in the world, and it might take awhile to get that back after she's through with it.

The sad part is, until he is truly ready to break it off 100% himself , the cycle will continue.... I hope he is ready to see the truth and be done with her for good.

2 of my brothers have gone thru situations with bad wife choices (more than once for both of them) and they went back & forth a few times before the final realization that it wasn't the way they wanted their future to look.

But they didn't hook up with quite such a loose or dangerous cannon..

one did get accused of abuse & rape by one of the wives - but she dropped it as it was a total lie.

My prayers for you, DH and DS are on the way.:hug:

Oh, and prayers for the poor idiot, as well.

SO sorry to hear about everything your son is still going through with his ex, I really hope things start looking up for him soon. He doesn't deserve this at all :(

I split up with my ex boyfriend 3 weeks ago ... not long after coming back off vacation with him :rolleyes: Not sure what happened to cause us to split, but he did say he couldn't cope with my illness ... yet he has Cerebal Palsy himself and i've never once judged him because of it and he knew about my illness from last year :rolleyes:

He still had a lot of my things, and I had some of his so my mum got in touch with his dad to ask if it would be possible to take them back to him. Back early last year, he told me when we had an argument that he had Cystic Fibrosis and was probably going to die when he was 18 (he was just turned 17 then). I believed him and felt soooo sorry for him. He later told me in October that it was a misdiagnosis and that he was going to be fine, he just had a weak chest. It turned out last week that he lied about being ill the whole time :@ He never had the CF he said he had, never went to any hospital appointments like he said and never had any of the medical procedures done. :@ He denied lying about the illness at first until his dad told me that he was sick and would get him help. He now admits he lied but that he only did it because he loved me soo much and couldn't face losing me :rolleyes:

I can't believe there are soo many sick people in this world. I trusted him with everything, took him into our homes and my heart and so did my mum. She's now run up £2k worth of debt just because she felt sorry for this boy and wanted to give him the best life he could have :mad:

Simon (my ex) is now off with another girl (well he was, but they split today I think :rolleyes:). She is just as sick as him, she lied about having cancer, even shaved her hair off to say she had it until her school found out it was a lie. SO many sick people in this world today!

Anyways Dejibo, sorry for going completely off track. I just wanted to let you know that your son isn't the only one that's dealt with similar things. I've never dealt with any of the violent agression thankfully, but I do know just how scary other things can be. I'll always love Simon, but he has waayyy too many issues for me ever to go back to him no matter how much it hurts. We spent 16 months together and saw eachother every day, it's not something i'm 'just going to get over' no matter how much everyone says I should.

I really hope things look up for your son soon, let him know i'm thinking about him :hug: