Tracy,
It sure has been a long time! I feel bad for your circumstances, but you know, someone always has it worse. Always.
I have a friend I'm trying to support who has RSD, RA, and CANCER!! Broken arm and collar bone from an accident. Trying to get to Philly for specialized cancer treatment, but, had a spot on the brain, and recieved some radiation along with laser surgery. Now, all kind of dizziness, and can't get on a plane to get to Philly.
But this is where the doctors want her to be.
Cancer is such a HUGE business, that it's like trying to trust a lawyer. ( to trust an oncologist ).

I'm in a legal battle for more than a decade, lost everything, (which was not a little bit), and my children hate me for it, don't understand the illness and tbi.

So, you can see, Tracy, you've got to be strong. I doubt the 25 y.o. would have to do any more than pay child support, once it's Proven by blood work that it's his child.
BTW, studies have found that the best form of birth control pill, is an aspirin. (Held firmly between the knees). i hope you can appreciate a joke...

You will get through this, Tracy. Nobody is dying. In fact, you may have new life to celebrate!

It's All in your attitude!

I hope it works out well for you!

Pete

Tracy...

I am so sorry for all of your pain and sadness....it's time to step back and relish as possibly this new little baby will give you a different path... AND yes it does you a world of good to drop to your knees and shout and cry...That is a must and healthy..you my friend, should do that a few more times!!! Try not to let all of this pull you down..Love your family for all that they are to you...they are human, as we are too..in trying to live with our RSD..You know baby steps as everything will push you right over if you try to handle it all at one time..life really is eventful and at times, unfair..but remember my favorite saying...it is: "Life is not about waiting for the storm to pass..life is about learning to dance in the rain", my friend..look at life with a positive spin and say..this is what god mean't for me.. then I am good.. lets pray for a healthy baby and for us to have a painless day..the rest can slide!!! okay????

Many hugz as you will be okay..just take some deep breaths..

Kathy

I am sorry it feels like the world is falling down around you. But my friend keeps telling me.. " one day at a time is the only way we can make it through this.." and she has cancer.. terminal.. It always seems to feel that way to us.. i think that is the norm these days.. BUt a new grandbaby make help give you something to look forward to..They are probably right in a earlier post bout the child support. but i think jail time.. shes just a child herself.. sometimes we just need to try to look past all the negatives and try to look at happy times. which are never shining bright, they are always dull and shaded gray.. but they are they off in the horizon if we look hard enough..things will get better for you.. I hope.. we are all here for you..

Hi. I am so sorry with all you are facing. You really need support right now with all that is going on. Is there another family member or friend that can be there for you right now? For you attorney I would call him everyday till you get some answers. That is unacceptable to not even get a call. As for your daughter I wish I had more to offer. There is this realty show on MTV called 16 and pregnant and some of the children have the baby and some give it up for adoption. It shows the struggles for both choices. I would think the 25 year old is heading to jail. Can you as a parent press charged? I mean that is sick of him. Can you all as a family mom,dad,and daughter go to family therapy? Regardless of how your husband feels he needs to be part of this and should be helping you. Sometimes having aother party to ask ?'s and support can put things into perspective. I wish I had more advice. I just hope you reach out and get the help/support you deserve. You can't be there for your daughter if you are too sick. If you want an email buddy I am here. Even just a listening ear can help

Wow, you are dealing with ALOT right now. I certainly hope the 25 yr old goes to jail for statutory rape. No 25 yr old has any darn business with a 14 yr old. I don't care what your daughter says about him. 14 is just a child even if girls don't look like they are. This sorta happened to my sister-in-laws grandaughter, only it turned out the father was her daughters boy friend. She was too afraid to tell her Mom what was going on. Let me tell you that (*)*^^## man went to prison. They kept the baby but they had alot of counseling to go through. It could have totally devastated & ruined this family completely but it hasn't. If anything it pulled them closer.

I have watched the program on MTV about "16 & Pregnant" also. I think all teenagers should have to watch it. It might stop them from participating in risky behaviours a little more.

Sorry about the lawyer situation also. I am so glad that I didn't have to deal with WC. I was working but I didn't have any sort of injury there when RSD hit me. I didn't have any injury at home either. I was told I could go the WC direction because I was working, but I decided not to. I would still be dealing with them also. I have heard people so complain about their WC lawyers not returning calls etc so much.

I wish I could think of some brilliant adivce to really help you out, but there is just nothing in my brain. Hang in there is all I can say.

Debby

Dear Friends,
I want to thank each and everyone of you for all of your support. I am really trying to hang in there as tough as I can. My husband won't do counseling because he will say he has no time and he doesn't need it. I do think about my daughter each and every day and try to think of all positives but she is only 14 and I am so afraid this is going to screw the rest of her life up. But like I said before I am not going to make the decision for her. It is her call and I will be there for her 100% no matter what. I know the sheriffs dept. is investigating the 25 yr old but I don't know if that is the same as us pressing charges. Can anyone help? I want to see him fry I am sorry about my opinion but that is what he deserves.
As far as my rsd Iam still dealing with a lot of pain.I know everybody here knows what that is like. it stinks.I can't get this pain in my right hip to go away.Every time I turn or have to reach for anything it hurts real bad. I am not sure why it hurts so bad. That is the side that did not start with the rsd but for quite sometime it has been giving me issues ever since I had my major back issue. I don't know what the doc will say but it seems to me that all he wants to do is get rid of me. I wish I had a doc I could rely on. I thought i did but now I think he is getting tired of me so he is trying to push me off on to other docs. Help!
Thanks again to all my friends for being here in my time of need. I hope I can repay the favor some time. You all take care and hope to talk to you all soon.


Sincerely,
Tracy