I understand most of your comments about the neighbor, but it frustrates me when people make judgements about the disabled as if it's a crime to take a vacation.

Disabled doesn't mean dead.

I have a whole host of strategies to cope with traveling, including flying in 3 or 4 days before my vacation partner to recover from the flight. I never even thought of flying with a pillow until I picked up that tip from this board...

Family members have judged me for going. It does take a toll on my body. I'm not cured when I get there. I can't have anywhere near a normal activity level of a healthy person. I'm on a really tight budget.

The flip side for me is that the only place I'm naturally pain free is in warm ocean water, so even getting to swim a few times while in Hawaii gives me HOPE, even if other days I can't leave the room due to pain, or an upset stomach, or vertigo.

Just wanted to throw another perspective out there...