I am deeply saddened by this news. My prayers are with all of us right now as we try to comprehend this terrible sad news. Please send my most heart felt condolences to Andrea's family at this difficult time.

"Caring enough to be sad

Life is beautiful and joyful, and it is only because life can be so beautiful that it can sometimes be so sad. In grief there is also, strangely, a component of joy.
When we are sad it is because we care so very much. Sadness is painful, and yet the absence of sadness would mean an utter and hopeless emptiness much worse than any pain.

The joy you have known stays with you always, even in times of loss -- especially in times of loss. Indeed, it is the joy that makes the loss hurt so much. Yet that joy is never used up or canceled out. It is still a part of you, though the conditions and the relationships from which it came may have changed. It is still with you. And no one can ever take it away.

Ultimately, the joy is stronger than the pain. The pain may not ever go away completely, yet it will become more bearable as the joy continues to grow stronger with each passing moment.

Not only is sadness a genuine expression of joys already experienced, it intensifies the joys to come. The sun always seems brighter after days and days of rain. The joy and beauty of life mean even more after experiencing the pain of sadness. When you care enough to know true and profound sadness, it's a positive affirmation of life that has no equal."

-- Ralph Marston

Much love and peace to all.

MsL

I am so sorry to hear this, even though I did not know her and not much about rsd, but I do know about pain, bad hearts (my pain and Dh's bad heart, 2 bypass surgeries, 2 stints and 6 heart attacks) plus I just found out today that my first cousin died weeks ago, and I knew he was bad off but he detached from all who loved him refusing any and all help we offered and I feel robbed of the chance to be able to say or do anything and although I understand I find myself feeling angry at him for pushing us all away! Sorry, did not mean to make this about me!
I wish all concerned peace and hope!

We are all saddened at the loss of Andrea. Thanks for your kind reply. I know Kelly and Andrea's family will appreciate your thoughts.
I am sorry for your loss as well. I had a friend who drank himself to death, despite our attempts and proffessional treatment. My son 22 is still angry at him after 5 years. He loved this man. I know this is way different but there are just situations in life that we have no control over. As my therapist told me today...stuffing those feelings inside, is more harmful than letting them out. This was just out of your control.
As someone also suffering with chronic pain (RSD) for 20 years in July, I would like to welcome you here. I look forward to hearing from you again. All the best to you! Di

i am so sorry for your loss. being a parent myself i cnat find the right words. i hadnt talk with her but had seen everything posted about it and i am so sorry
please know that your family is in my prayers

-carrie

I am sorry to hear that she lost her battle...................send my heartfelt sympathy to her parents. I know what it is they are going through right now as I recently lost my own daughter, Erin, Jan 20, 2009. The pain is so undescribable.............to loose your daughter. It is not anything you get over, ever, but I am told it does get more bearable as time goes by. The problem is that time seems to go by so slowly now...............my prayers are for them....

DebbyV

I too echo your setiments debby. from my siggy we are part of that sadest group, losing a child. The bearable part is just the extreme heaviness of heart 24/7, as we keep mortivated and busy. Thenall of a sudden it comes on full force.

I can understand the emotions, you and this family are facing and almost could not post anything more then a thanks post.

When you lose parents you are an orphan, when you lose a spouse you are a widow. But, when you lose a child there is no name to express it.
Kelly I am so very sorry to hear of our losing another child. They are so young and the battles they take on.

So many times as a parent I would ask God to give me the pain and heal my child......
The family on the forum have always kept me close and supportive. That helped me immensly as I could not allow myself to show my family the depth of my pain.

I miss her so much, I have aged a dozen years the last two.
My prayers to Kelly, Andrea's family and to Debby.

di

I just read this and I wanted to say how sorry I am that Andrea is gone.

She was one of the best. I loved her post, she was smart and kind and you knew she had a heart of gold.

My sympathy to all of her family.

Ada

Just to make sure there isn't any confusion.

We have a few Andrea's as members here, but this Andrea was not a member here.
She was a friend of Kelly's that also had RSD.

Our prayers & sympathy go out to her family at this time.