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06-16-2009, 11:39 AM
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it's a very odd sort of feeling.
As if my feets aren't touching the ground..... Nor, my anything can touch anything! It's ALL left up to God! This is No Carnival Ride! (And, I hate those) So then, What might I do? I did think about ending it all. I won't lie to ya'll, my good friends! Of course I thought that! But, it just couldn't work! No how, No Way! I must live, according to the "Code". Do it right. If not, I'm a total royal F*** up! (sorry for that). Yet, it's true! Perhaps, God wants me to see and understand what it's like to have "nothing". I don't think, I'd be much different.... I've given it much thought. I worked "mightily" for my home, and children, and business's. Yet, the only thing left, is my home. Why shouldn't I lose that too? My Brother, the family thief, who stole my father blind, and all I did for dad, wimply refuses to help me. My step mother on her death bed, whom he stole from also, has told me ALL the facts, and I've really reamed him with them, he refuses to see the truth. OK. That's fine. My pain psychiatrists, have told me, over and over again, that I was "taught, or patterned" to just give". OK, still feels good to me. Yet my bro won't believe it, older sis is dead. So What? We all will die. That Brother won't help, (and he's recently become a paraplegic) with an awesome wife, or , fool, whatever, If she and her family knew what he really did, it would spin his world upside down. Yet, I cannot do that to him. I just can't. While he denies me, and holds Dad's and my cash. So, I may end up where many of us do. no place to live (even though my home is paid for), and, many worse things.... I truly believe in this one truth, What "Comes Round, Goes Round". I Truly, Truly want to thank you all, for you kind words here, and your PM"s!!! Please, Keep them coming, and I will keep ya''ll up to date on this evil, lied about divorce thing.... Love to Ya'll! Pete Hugs! xo |
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06-16-2009, 12:34 PM
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I just wanted to say how sorry I am about what you are going through. I am praying that you gain the strength to go to your lawyer and ask him questions about why he never showed up and if you paid him then tell him you will see him in court to sue him for what he hasn't done for you.
Also I hope you fight for your home. I know how hard it is for us to fight for anything when we are in the shape we are in. Hell, I was depressed last night about not being able to just pull myself up and move on after losing Bill, not being able to work and little things going on with me. With RSD as Diana says, we seem to be in a world of our own. We look normal, at least most of us do with it, so therefore everyone thinks we are fine, yet we can't function like what I call normal people. When it comes to divorce, I think a lot of times, it's still a woman's world. I think even though women have fought for rights they didn't want to give up the divorce right to take men for all they have or drive them nuts even after they are divorced. I know some women come out losers in divorces but I don't think it's to the extent of the men. I am sorry that your family won't help you in any way. It goes back to them not understanding what we are going through physically and then when we get another burden thrown on that we can't deal with then they don't seem to understand why we can't get through it. I'll be honest with you, I don't deal with this issue but I see many that does. Families don't stick together like they use to. I do hope you start feeling better soon and maybe in a day or two when you start seeing things more clearly then you can think of what your next steps will be to keep your home. We are here for you. Ada |
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06-16-2009, 12:55 PM
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Hi Pete,
I just wanted to say how sorry I am for all that you are going through right now. You are in my prayers. Please stay strong and don't let this beat you down. You have faith, hope, and love.  Kate |
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06-16-2009, 01:15 PM
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Number one go after that low life attorney of yours. 2nd appeal this outrageous ruling and bring it before another judge. Than heres the important part while it looks really bad right now wait until after the appeal. You may not get everything you want but if the house is in your name and there is a prenup as you said than you will be able to get it back. Plus a attorney that actually does his job should have no problem getting the house at least for you.
Try not to be down as that lets your exwife win easier. And don't you dare give up!!! |
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06-16-2009, 04:56 PM
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Again I am so sorry. You have to hold to Hope and I know this is easier said then done trust me. I am not a religious person and actually have to really work to be positive as even before this condition I was a "Debbie" downer. Hope even if it is in something small to get you through the day. I am glad you have a psychologist and I know how hard it is with lack of family support. Do you have friends in real time that can be there to help you? I am not very familiar with law stuff but there has to be somewhere to get this to be seen as wrong and that justice is not being served. I wish I had more answers for you but you have an email buddy here too. You are not alone and I know it can feel that way often. Sending better wishes and times ahead
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06-16-2009, 08:58 PM
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--- I'm new to the site and just trying to nav around. Spent awile trying to find it again... Anyway, I hope i was helpful and have a few other ideas but didn't want to step on any toes. I was in law enforcement for quite awhile before rsd. I was one of a few females that thought everyone had a fair shake. good luck if you need anything & if i can help let me know. I tried to leave an email for you but i haven't left enough posts. don't get that one but rules are rules. I'll check when i can. |
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06-16-2009, 09:56 PM
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Hey bro, sounds like you got pounded, but im glad your not the type to take the easy way out. I totally identify with your situation, although the way you would lose is different, it is still losing everything.
What I do have to share might sound cheesy, but it happened for me. When I first realized that I could not work any longer, my future looked very bleak and scared the cr*p out of me. I had a ranch with 2 homes, a couple of car payments, 6 kids to feed, with a wife that thought shopping was therapy for everything including a headache. Over the next 5 years I lost or sold everything I owned. Credit companies were after me, banks wouldnt give me a bank account, lost the houses, cars repossessed, the whole world was crumbling around me. Unbelievably my wife hung in there like the trooper I always hoped she would be, but everything else was gone. I did have one thing that kept me going, and that was my faith in a higher power that has everything under control. I know there is this higher power because I found a rental house, but didnt have the money to rent it. The next day a check arrived from the state for something I over payed. I had my rental, but zero income  Making a long story short, the lord seen me through the worst 5 years of my life, not saying he saved me from the grief and heartache, but I am still in this rental. I was 3 months behind on the rent on 3 different occasions, for over 4 moths at a time, and the landlord for some reason let me stay. She evicted several other tenants, but not me. A miracle to me. Every time there was a need for money or there would be dire consequences, the money would show up from out of the blue, and always about how much I needed. I had my power shut off many times before, but not during this 5 years, including up to this day. I guess I had little faith or was tryin to hard on my own power back then.  Sure if I let the things going on around me get to me, I would have taken the easy way out. I just gave everything to god because there was no way I was going to do anything about the circumstances. He is faithful when we can trust him to take care of us. I am living proof. I will be prayin for ya bro, and the advice in this thread sounds like some good advice  
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06-17-2009, 02:07 PM
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Allen, My heart goes out to you!
Lord, we've got to PM. My prayers are with you.. ~~~~~~~~~ It seems as for me, I will lose my home, although it is full of MY furniture, my parents "Heirloom" furniture, etc. my Jaguar E Type in the garage, and on and on... I'll get some "Chump Change". I have a Pre Nup with this nice lady. But, as you know, my last attorney has probably "lost" my file... Along with that pre nup I cannot get through to my children, (MY daugher in this case), Who HAS a copy of it! Anyone here who uses "FaceBook", and would like to write to my daughter for me, to get a copy of this Pre Nup, would be most appreciated! I know she has a copy. No matter where she left it, no matter what hoops she needs to jump through to get it, I need it by this weekend. (The P.N. and her testimony, would likely save the house!) (When I go there, (Daughter's facebook page), I must be blocked somehow, it comes up in chinese, or japanese, which, would be a shock to me, if she spoke either of those!). So, write me or PM me, and I'll give you her Facebook name. Some of you are very nice writters, this might be the "break" that God's looking to give me? I don't know. I'' shivering in pain... So, I'm losing big time, wifey had a plan for a long time, probably before I married her, and it's working. All I can do now, is try to plug the Titanic. Which is, certainly sinking.... Thanks for all you kind thoughts! Pete Asb..? |
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06-17-2009, 05:53 PM
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I will help you through facebook, will add you as a friend right now.
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06-18-2009, 02:31 AM
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Thanks Allen! You are a genuine friend! man hugs I think it would help to have some of the Facebook ladies aboard too. (I haven't spoken to my daughter for 4 years). As ya'll know. All caused by this crappy situation. She can be a hero. Or, she may choose to hate me. (That'll be her choice of course.). You may hear some terrible things about me, I don't know. Maybe, even if I "lose it all", I may regain a relationship with my children! How much better to choose love, over Gold, Understanding, over Silver! I wonder, all those of you gals who have befriended me on Facebook would be willing to "venture a shot in the dark" to my daughter, for her, her brother's, their children's and my sake?" (Let's see, my daughter is now about 24 years old. I think you could all have an effect on her! She has never known how ill her Daddy is. Except for what she saw.. (Which was sufficient, but, who knows?) I'd only give some basic info, and leave the rest to ya'll, for a short note. This is now time critical. I want to thank you ALL for your kind and lovin' support that you've shown me recently! The world is full of good people, they're here! Any thoughts let me know here, PM, or Facebook, or email... First, someone msg. me on Facebook, and I'll give you her name. Just see if you can send her a message? (Don't have to do it yet, just see if it's an available option). /thank you THANK YOU!! love ya's, Pete ASB Last edited by AintSoBad; 06-18-2009 at 03:18 AM. |
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