Your world has literally been turned upside down and I know you are feeling alone in this. It's hard enough when our pain flares up beyond measure and you aren't getting any support from your husband....doors are being slammed in your face. That feeling of emptiness and darkness must be plaguing you right now. Please, Karen PLEASE don't do anything rash.
Making a hasty decision while you are in this mindframe might lead to the biggest regret you'd have to face.

You and your daughter need each other right now. Stick together, talk, cry together. She needs to know that you believe in her and that this wasn't her fault. I beleive that the guy who did this to her is going to get what's coming to him.

Is there somewhere nearby with whom you and your daughter can go for good counseling? There is no way to lose by doing this. It shows your daughter that you are strong enuf to get the care you both need. It's you and her being a team to get thru this.

Years back, my family was going thru some struggles and I took my daughter for counseling. To this day she thanks me for it because she said I showed her how much I care for her....plus, it did ME a world of good too.

Please listen to what your good friends here are saying, Karen.
You are more than precious to us....

Rae

Thank you for your guidance on this site. You care about each and every post and show such compassion for those in need. Thank you for being here for us all. I don't know how you manage to do this. I do how ever understand the time and effort you give for us. Have a blessed and peaceful new year. ginnie

Very short reply .. but my thanks go out to you all .. I feel more peace now .. and that horrible, horrible HATE feeling has soothed. Goodness me, it is so hard being a parent at times.

I havent had time to read all your posts properly and will do so tomorrow when Mike is back at work .. but I hjust needed to come and say THANK YOU. I am forwarding a link to this to Hollie, who was very touched at what she read and how so many people are praying for our help and guidance regarding this.

xx

If you have one minute of peace to think, that is good. We will be behind you every step you take toward getting help. I cannot imagin me as a mother going through that. There are alot of people on this site who do understand your grief and will pray for you. ginnie

Hi Saffy - we don't know each other very well at all, but when someone cries out for help as you have, all of our hearts ache for you! I have been in somewhat of a familiar situation - I was in the role of your daughter. I will be praying for her, for you, and your family. I realize you are in crisis mode right now, but the goal right now is to make it through this time. I have overdosed (twice) in the past, and it had devastating ripples that affect our family even now, some 9 years later. Please, do whatever is needed to get through this time, even if that means in-patient treatment. Survive it - please. I will be praying - ElizaJane23

Hi Karen,
I'm so very, very, sorry to hear all of what your family and your daughter are going through, it truly is unbelievable, I don't know what to say, I've no idea. Will you try and go for counselling, is that easily availlable? Or is it doors shut in your face because you cant afford it? Like here doors are shut in your face unless you can afford €60 each time. It sounds like your daughter is trying...... or is she?


I hope you all eventually find peace.

Love to all xxxx

Sinéad,
Have strength, I know you have some, you've been through so much yourself.

I'm on my I pad so typing is an issue and this won't be a long post, but i just wanted to say how dear you all are offering prayers Nd good wishes to two virtual strangers. There are good people in this world!

Hollie has been prescribed something called matripazine I think it's called. She only has got two weeks supply which is good, or bad if you look at It that she's paying for it. Well, mum did, hahah.

My Anger has eased so much and for that I am grateful and I truly believe it is because you have all been praying and thinking of me. Thank you. I was absolutely desperate.

Looks like my op won't be January 18th now as I rang saying , please give me some good news . O ly to be told that there is a back log and it more likely to be february. Aghhhh ...

With my love to you all .. X x x x

My loving neuro talk family .. I care and love you all.

You have found, what I did here. An extended family is here. There is such comfort with the people here that we ease each others souls. We all care about you too, and the desperation we felt from you. That cannot go unanswered when a person cries out like that. I am glad that your justified anger has settled a bit, and that you are moving forward to getting some kind of help. You daughter is in my thoughts and prayers too. ginnie

Thank you so much for coming here to let us know that you are doing better. I know all too well that feeling of pure rage. It can be very hard to control at times, but you are managing it.....which says aLOT about your character....

We all care and love you too, dear Karen....

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