Renee,

I am so sorry you are going through this. I'm glad you were able to talk to the chaplain. I think it is good that the chaplain is going to get involved and try to talk to your husband.

It's unbelievable how he can act the way he has. He should be ashamed of himself and maybe he will see that when the chaplain talks to him. If he doesn't see it, then he's not much of a man.

He needs to grow up and take care of his wife and children. If he wants a divorce, he should have the guts to do the right thing. That is all he needs to do is the "right thing".

I am sure the military will make him pay his debts by court order. Just keep plugging away until you get the right person to help you with all of this.

Bless your heart. I'm thinking of you and your kids and I am praying for you. Things are tough right now but they will get better.

My son's father left us in 1972 with nothing. My son was 2 years old and I was 21 years old. He just walked out with the car and all our money and I found out he moved to another state.

I scraped up the money to divorce him and he came back crying and begging for forgiveness. He wouldn't sign the papers so we published it in the law journal and it was done without his signature. I forgave him but didn't take him back. He never did the right thing and hasn't seen his son in 35 years and never paid a penny child support. I raised my son without financial or emotional assistance from anyone and it was tough but I did it.

I wish you all the luck in the world.