Hi crytears!! I just read all the posts here, was lost until I read that you had edited your first post.... But, I just wanted to chime in and say that I hope you feel welcome here.

You have had so much sadness in your life... It just isn't right, but I hope you feel like part of the NeuroTalk family, b/c you are.

I'm sorry if I have missed some of your posts. This place is huge, so please know that this is your home away from home, even if we are just one big CYBER family.
Some members have been fortunate to meet and form personal bonds, which I think is great... But, we can all come here and laugh, cry, vent, and just speak our minds. I find it really helpful esp when I'm down....

Glad to see you are feeling a little better....
take care.....

Yep, there is no doubt people can be mighty mean, particularly if they can get away with it without 'facing' you.

I've read that the internet has brought out a lot of ugliness. Some people say things they would not otherwise say. They feel anonymous and free of responsibility.

Remember that saying though:

"People who live in glass houses shouldn't throw stones!" (And - think of it ...everone lives in a glass house so to speak!)

It is one thing to have an 'opinion' but quite another to force it upon others or indicate that if they don't agree they are bad! You see this on the boards at times. I guess this is a reflection of life, but remember you don't have to take it. Leave before the tears flow.

We are all different, but in many ways we are alike. Most care about having people like us. It's nice though when you can express an opinion (such as not liking a political candidate) and still be able to continue a conversation.

AS hard as it is to deal with, just consider that you don't really 'know' the people you are chatting with. Though you feel strongly that you need that group, I'm sure there are other groups you will find more support from if you search it out.

There are many kind people here.

It is not a good substitute for the real thing though, so if you are able open your heart to volunteering. Children and the elderly are particularly in need of help and love.

Another great idea is to join a book club. Everyone reads the same book and then offers their opinions and take on it. It can be very interesting and stimulate conversation.

Also, realize, that as we get older it does get harder to make good friends. People tend to have old familiar relationships, though those can change also.

I too had to move a lot as a child and I have no lasting friends from my childhood. I doubt we are all that unusual; there are many people who've had to move.

I sure wish you well in finding people to share your ideas and feelings with.

Tootsie