I googled this question and came up with this. The closest thing I could to what I am actually feeling. I am NOT unhappy, I get a little lonely sometimes but daily, I do O.K.

http://ask.metafilter.com/84087/What...lly-want-to-do

Of course this guy is 23 and Most of what he says doesn't apply to an Older person like myself but some of it does.

I find that if I make a list of things I Should do, I rarely do them all in the specifide time I give myself. I used to do in One day what it takes me a week to do nowand I really Don't Care either when I don't get everything done. Which is Very ODD for me.

I talked to a friend in her 70's and she said that as we age our priorities shift. I have no big plans, I never did. Life just sort of Happened TO me. I dealt with things I NEVER wanted to have to deal with. I feel like the life I have lived is NOT the life I wanted eventhough I really HAD no big plans.

Anyone else feel like this?

Sometimes..Sort of..How's that for an answer?

I had plans..Not BIG plans by most people's standards, I suppose, but still..I feel fortunate to have accomplished them up to this point..It's the "where do I go from here" I haven't quite answered yet. Depression isn't a big problem, I'm pretty happy overall, but I don't want to let myself get too "comfortable", if you know what I mean. Just because I have this ridiculous disease doesn't mean I have to stop making plans. I may have to revise those plans occasionally, but then I had to do that even before MS, so that's not new.

Back to your original question..What do I do when there's really nothing I WANT to do? I guess I take my time, do a few small things, and give thought to where I want to go from here. If I figure out where that is, I'll be posting it here!

interesting question, it seems like I never have free time always something to do,

but what do you do when you dont want to do anything,

i guess i crash out or zone out at history channel

like i said occasionally i couch potato it and find its good for the soul to zone out once in a while, interesting question Wiix

Thanks both of you for giving Some kind of answer. This is a Simple question but NOT an easy question. As far as "Zoning Out". I think I already AM in a constant state of Zone Out to begin with. I am in my own little world here. I go for months sometime Years without having any kind of Real life Human interaction aside from the cashier at the grocery or the desk clerk at the library and I don't seem to care.

Do we reach a point in our lifes when we've DONE everything we are going to do and there is nothing left to want because everything we had is gone and there is NO chance in Hell of anything New coming into our life??

Do we reach a point where there is no point to wanting anything or needing anyone or caring about anything?? I don't even CARE what I eat anymore. I just grab anything that's here and sometimes I don't even go BUY food when I need to. The laundry piles up, I don't care, Screw it, I say some days. I am not mad or upset about anything. I don't want to do anything or go anywhere or try to think of anything to do. Do we get to a point when all the things we liked are DONE. Any possibility of anything happening to make a change doesn't really matter, I'm just Tired of everything. I keep thinking about my family that is Gone, a daughter I will never see again because of her mental problems, a grand daughter who I haven't seen in 5 years, growing up without a "Na", that's what she called me. I would Like to see her or talk with her on computer but last time that was possible my daughter screwed THAT up. She is my Only blood relative alive and we have Nothing and no possibility of anything, Ever.

Is this what getting old IS? I have no one to ask or talk to about it. My sister lost her husband last year and I think she is going soon now too. I EMailed her a few months ago and she never replied. It seems any and all efforts I made at Anything, come to Nothing, No Reply. I don't WANT to be depressed, I don't FEEL depressed, I feel like I am actually seeing things as they truely ARE. Am I going to go on for the rest of my life like this??

I HAVE religion, my own version of what I think God is and I do talk to God sometimes. I ask what to do next, I ask for answers, I get nothing. How can a person in a world with Billions of people feel so isolated and alone? Am I a Freak?? I just don't know anymore, maybe I am.

I didn't really understand what you were asking/saying from your fisrt post, but I get it a little more from your second.

Sometimes I don't feel the joy anymore like I used to. Sometimes it feels like the best is behind me. I just try to stay busy. Try to not think about it, not look back or ahead, just look at right now, at the task at hand.

Get up, take a shower, eat, read, feed the dogs.

Life is not a parade. It's not a load of laughs and constant smiles. But when I do see that cashier, I figure her life is not a parade either. Maybe I can say something nice, amke her laugh, make her day better. And that makes my day better too.

One laugh at a time and I come out of it until things don't seem so bad. You never know what's ahead. You don't have to plan them they just happen. But they're not going to just walk into your kitchen, you have to go find them, and see them when they happen. I have to open my eyes to them, if you know what I mean. I have to be in the frame of mind to be able to do that.



I hope you find that.

Hi Wiix, I am sorry to read your post about what life has dealt you up to now. This may sound preachy but I am going to throw it out there anyway.

You say you have your religion and talk to God sometimes. Talk to Him more. And listen more, this was hard for me.

Try to find a good welcoming church (you may have to visit several till you find the one that fits) and open yourself up to making new friends. You will be surprised to find that there are others that are also looking for someone to laugh and just be happy with.

God has done some amazing things in my life in the last year and when I read your post I could relate so much but that was then and this is now. I hope you find some meaning and more importantly that human interaction that means so much. ...Sue