It wasn't alot of money but its principal

Melody said it right ~~ SHAME on THEM!!!

Quite right, Bethie. When someone commits to an activity and misappropriates your generous funds/property, it's not only irresponsible, but immoral to blow it off without trying to make it right. It sounds like an abuse of your trust.

Very good point Cindy! A simple explanation would be in order. I know I certainly would not trust them again nor would I recommend them to anyone.

I'm sorry this person has hurt you. I don't know the size of the hurt, or the importance of the broken promise. But I sometimes find that some people are easily flustered when confronted face to face. When I feel disappointed in one of my friends, I'll usually write them a letter and explain my side of it, and how I feel. It has saved me more friends than one.

I hope that everything works out for the best for you, and I really mean that. I pray it doesn't become a clash of wills. But if I had to say, I would probably say that you are the one who's been slighted. And if that causes you to mistrust the person who made the promise, then you have every right to walk away from them. I just hope it doesn't come to that.

I agree with pretty much everything everyone else has already said.

I'm sorry someone treated you like this. I'm not sure if this was a family member or just a friend....and not knowing the person makes forming a judgment about them sorta hard....but I'd guess they are a little embarrassed and don't know how to justify their breach of trust other than to just blow it off. I don't know...just drawing straws here.

If it were me I'd do everything in my power to make it right. I couldn't live with myself if I didn't.

I think people make promises to quickly these days. They don't feel like it matters if they keep them or not. My Mom always told us not to make promises we couldn't keep. And I don't recall her ever breaking a promise to any of us girls.

I hope this resolves itself for you soon, Beth. I hate it that you tried to do something kind for someone and they brushed you off.

Want to know what I find amazing? That there are people in this world who think that it's perfectly okay to say one thing, and do another. That, in their opinion, SO WHAT'S THE BIG DEAL??

I've come across this way of thinking more times than I cared to. My own son feels like this. That's why he lives 3000 miles away from us, because as he put it "I only care about myself and you wouldn't let me get away with my way of thinking".

Imagine your own son actually saying "you owe me, because you brought me into this world".

But I'm digressing. This thread is about Beth and Her feelings.

She been slighted, been promised something, and the person, FOR WHATEVER REASON, is trying to pooh pooh this whole experience and probably told her 'oh for crying out loud, what's the big deal, it was only 50 bucks (I'm just using this as an example),

When you are dealing with a person with that kind of mind set, I don't believe that person can ever change. That person, for some reason, has come to the conclusion that when they give their word, SO WHAT IF THEY DON'T COME THROUGH FOR YOU!!!!

I don't subscribe to this way of thinking at all. It's very sad that there are many people in this world who think like that. They can't really make true friends because their true colors eventually come through.

It's like the odd nephew who comes around for handouts and says "you know I'm good for it" but they never are. They just smile, slink away with whatever you give them this time".

It's about me me me. This type of thinking. It's not about 'oh my goodness, I did say I would do this didn't I?", I am sooo sorry, let me make it right".

NOW THAT PERSON IS A PERSON I CAN RESPECT!!!

Too bad people don't aspire to be that kind of person.

After reading all your posts I have come to the conclusion that I am not blowing this out of proportion. I just want something wrong made right