[Kitty]

The 66 year old woman who's pregnant for the first time is causing quite a stir in England.

Do you think 66 is too old to become a mother? Is it fair to the child?

http://abcnews.go.com/International/...7612856&page=1

[Curious]

I am 45. I love to babysit my granddaighter...but...having one at my age even...nope.

I know this woman wants a baby...but I wonder if she has taken care of one for any stretch of time recently?

[sabimax]

I was about to type... is it fair to child due to child having to lose you to death, by early age probably....but then I was thinking also, if this child is that wanted most likely will be so very loved... so guess looking thru it... not sure..

I do think it is too old of age to artificially make it happen...so I guess not right and being selfish to wait till that age then decide ..oh I think I will have a baby....

also, just taking care of my llittle ones at age 39 right now, well I know sxs make it harder... but even healthy.... thinking of a little one at ages in the 60s... so my vote is NO not fair....

hugss,sarah

[soxmom]

Im forty-five and have a five year old. Its alot of work but
sometimes I think these woman that are older and havent had a baby,
just do it....they dont have anything to compare their experience to.

Now I had my first when I was 26 and NOW I realize how easy it
was when I was younger. these older women dont, so maybe
thats good.

Okay now that Ive thoroughly confused myself....I will sneak out
of this thread

[Kitty]

My Mom was 40 when I was born. My sisters were 10 and 16 so I'm pretty sure I was an "oops". But.....she had alot of help with me from my sisters and I'm sure she appreciated it.

I was 22 when my first child was born and 26 when my second was born. I remember how tired I got all those years ago. I wanted to be a younger parent because I remember having an "older" Mom. She still did things with me and didn't become sick and frail with Alzheimer's until I was around 30 but that's still young to lose your Mom.

I guess there's pros and cons to both sides. I just cannot fathom having a baby at 66. She'll be 80 when the child becomes a teenager! Good luck trying to keep up with that!!

[SandyC]

My grandma practically raised me and my siblings. She died at the age of 71. That's all I am saying on it. lol

[ali12]

I think it's been pretty unfair to the child. I know that she really wants a child but someone pointed out on the news that when the child is 14 (my age), their mother will be 80 - old enough to be there great grandmother!!!

I think if I was the child, i'd be a bit embarrassed going to school and telling all of the other kids that my mum was 80 years old and i'm sure the poor child would have someone be nasty to them about it unfortunately as people can be really cruel sometimes.

I don't think it would be really fair on the teen to take care of their 80 year old mother at such a 'young' age.Most teens like going out with their friends and having fun and it's lot to expect for a 14 year old to look after someone that age and you don't know how ill she will be by then!!!

I haven't heard the whole story as to whether the women had any problems having children when they were younger but I think it's a bit unfair to have a child at that age AND there are lots of complications that could happen!!

Just my 2 cents worth. Hopefully the women will be a great mum and the child will have a very happy childhood!

[Dejibo]

I think it depends on the woman. I have alot of old lady friends and I must say, some are on the ball, on the go, on the move, and can put me to shame. Others show their age quickly, and health problems follow them like breadcrumbs out of the forrest.

I have several older than 85 year old friends that are constantly on the go to casino's and beach vacations, and are presidents of the Ladies society, and womens clubs, and historical societies around town. OUr librarian is 87 and works full time! She sprints up and down those steps to seek out whatever book might bring fancy to your reading. So, I think it depends on the person.

If she is in good health, can afford it, without asking welfare to raise the child and herself, and is capable of doing what needs to be done, have at it. If on the other hand, she is bored, broke, and just looking to fill in a hole from many losses in her life with a child on board...pick up knitting.

My father was in his late forties when I was born, and did a crappy job. he was interested in making money. mom was a child bride and 17 when preggers with her first. (i was the last) and she was so young, and inexperienced that she missed out on learning her own lessons before trying to teach them to children. Maybe my own screwed up upbringing twists my view.

[braingonebad]

Originally Posted by Dejibo

I think it depends on the woman. I have alot of old lady friends and I must say,

Maybe my own screwed up upbringing twists my view.

No.... I think you have some good points.

I think best case scenario - active, healthy, go-go-go mom of that age and the best behaved, healthiest, most loving devoted kid she could have - and this lady is still gonna have a run for her money. And the kid is still gonna have some trials, too.

Ali - glad you chimed in on this. It's not ALL about the mother.

[PolarExpress]

My mom was 39 when I was born, my dad 42 (I was born on his birthday)..Some things were more difficult for all of us, I suppose, but I always felt loved and cared for, so no complaints here. They were also an emergency foster care home for babies and toddlers up until my dad died at 72, with police often bringing little ones over in the middle of the night (sometimes more than one), and they did a great job. I was 21 when my daughter was born, nearly 31 when I had my son. I was much more prepared for parenthood at 31, it was a lot easier. Now, I wouldn't want to go thru it at 66, even if I was healthy, but if this woman has spent her life up to now doing her own thing, maybe she's better prepared now than she would've been at a younger age..? I just hope it works out well for both of them..