[Broken_Medic]

I'm new here. First of all, I hope I'm in the right area to be bringing up this thread. A brief history...I am a 50y/o male. In the summer of 2007 I had finally had enough, and went to a pain doc. I was a Paramedic/911 Dispatcher for 23 years. I started out fine, but never got the common sense to get out of the business before 35. Just loved doing the job. I know I was tearing up my back, and hips, and neck. So finally, in the fall of 2000, I did it up good trying to stop a 350lb. isolet from falling off a ramp. No baby inside Anyway, I avoided surgery, went to rehab, and yep, went right back to doing the job.

Long story short, in summer of 2007, just couldn't take it anymore, and sought out a pain doc. He labeled me disabled that day. I knew it was going to happen. Just never wanted to hear it. I filed for disability and got it my first time around. Everything seemed a bit better. More grounded. Suppose at this time (maybe earlier?) I met my current wife ( was married younger, total mess, no brains) in 2001 and we married that same year. In 2003 our first of three boys was born. They are ages 9, 7, and 5. I was dubbed Mr. Mom in 2008, an was on a fairly good program for my back. But.....the pain just wouldn't let up. I have went through the system of pumps, needles, inseertions, and pretty much every major narcotic we have out there.

Things started getting "noticeably" bad in 2009, when I couldn't find a happy place. Things just seemed to be falling in on me from all sides. Ya, the wife was concerned, helpful, and compassionate, for the first few years. But, as we all know, if you don't suffer from chronic pain, it's real hard to grasp the moods we go through. But, we kept trying to find a medium that kept us stable. Then the straw started bending. The Wife became tired and frustraded with her job. She was a nurse when we met. After a few years going to school on the laptop, she received her Bachelor's degree and moved up. Problem was, they didn't honor her with the proper pay. So, she started looking for a manager's job at hospitals. I grew up in Michigan. Been there all my life. She accepted a job in Delaware. Dela...where??? Anyway, I did not like the idea (I am a gun, hunter, kinda guy), but I was supportive. That was 3 months ago. All this move has done is to bring us to the realization that we don't really get along much anymore. We got married, started having kids, and never really had time to get to know each other as we should have before having kids.

So, now(I know...FINALLY!!) come to the origin of my question. I don't need to tell ya'll my SSD $$. Doesn't matter. My question is, If anyone has first hand knowledge, wnat happens with my SSD bennies in the event of a divorce. We haven't thrown in the towell yet, but it seems looming. The reason we came out to Delaware was her offer. She is making real good money, and likes her job. She could live very comfortably if on her own. We have been married for 10 years/3 months. I receive extra money for the kids as long as they live with me. And the way it looks, they would most likely come with me. My main question is , would she get any of my bennies if we divorced? Either with, or without the children living in my house. I know that if it ges the route of her having custody, I lose that extra pay for the kids. Also wondering though if she get's money from my bennies if I am on my own, without custody?

For anyone still reading, thank you for your patience. I am a talker (typer also...i guess )
Paul