Alffee

Doody

A wonderful person on this forum sent me this 18 months ago.............

Have you ever read about HSP's? I have been investigating this theory some over the last year or so. And I have to tell you that I think it is real, and could really help some people. I also feel very strongly that you fall into this group of people. I subscribed to an online newsletter for a group of these people and the last one had an article that I thought you should really read. I would also imagine that in your line of work you deal with these types as well. I have the link on my phone and will give you something to, hopefully, allow you to look it up. The lady's name is Elaine Aron, and she is also an author. The August 2010 newsletter has an article in it titled, "Healing the Highly Sensitive Male," by Ted Zeff, Ph.D. I think it is worth looking into. I hope this is enough information for you to find it. If I had your e-mail I could just forward it to you from my iphone. Let me know if you have any luck with it.
There is so much more I would like to say, but, I imagine this is already long enough. I hope to write again soon, and share more with you. Try to stay strong my friend. There is a great purpose to your life, please try not to ever forget that.


there is much truth in HS [male or female]............some folk walk around and have skin like crocodiles.....nothing gets in............some possibly???? like me have skin that thin..........the world gets in.............. bruising easily is a common trait..........

maybe our search is for just that..............not death by our own hand but just for a thicker skin.???????????

David

here you go...

Healing the highly sensitive male
August 2010: Comfort Zone ONLINE
Healing the Highly Sensitive Male
by Ted Zeff, Ph.D.

Its rather odd really...when its out there in print, written by a respected professional........it is cool to be a HSM

when in truth its not easy............why? because 90% of the population will never read the respected print...............therefore it will be unknown as a personal trait.......

because like other taboo subjects.......no one will talk about it......

Would i tell those around me i see this trait in myself.........[no not in so many words]

Why?....because [here goes stereotyping in full throttle] im 6'2 nearly 18 stone........a voice deeper than most..........a five o'clock shadow is constant....etc..............

to the external world im a big bloke.........

yet i'm sensitive.........is it a crime..........[not to me...i actually pity those around me who don't see things like i do with the compassion that i do.....i see others as hard-nosed...thick skinned....bordering on heartless................]

i have learned to avoid these types of people........unfortunately many close family and friends fit in this category..... that's difficult...........

when you love people...and cringe when they comment on issues that you feel strongly about, it is difficult to explain to them that your hurt and why.................to save your self from implosion you just switch off from that person until you can tolerate them until the next time....................hard blooming work believe me

.David....

"when you love people...and cringe when they comment on issues that you feel strongly about, it is difficult to explain to them that your hurt and why.................to save your self from implosion you just switch off from that person until you can tolerate them until the next time....................hard blooming work believe me"

And when you do explain it to them, and they don't hear you, or it makes no difference in how they relate to you...those for me are toxic people.

Oh yes, I believe you.

It is hard work. I know, believe me.
I think it's like everything I've ever come across, it's about balance.

David I sent you this earlier but I'll post it here again.
I think this little article is absolutely brilliant.

http://psychcentral.com/blog/archive...hly-sensitive/

5 Gifts of Being Highly Sensitive
By Therese J. Borchard

Different source but same words as Alffe posted.

This all reminds me a little of my mindset about young children with different conditions... autism, tourette's syndrome, anxiety/ocd etc.. It's always been my belief that everyone should look for the positive qualities in a child and then reinforce those positives. The difficulty is that a lot of people in the world don't "see" and as alffe just wrote, they don't hear either and therefore they just don'g get it.

Yes, yes, yes!

I absolutely agree with everything you all are writing here - so many wise thoughts!

Highly sensitive people....

It's definitely a different way to look at things. This poses the question: are our problems with suicide/depression a personality issue now not a disorder? Because after all, diagnosis such as depression were created long ago by doctors and people. Who is to say they were absolutely certain, that this illness isn't just a self-created term - not at all discounting that depression does not exist and those feelings aren't real. Heck, I've had my fair share. I am talking about the terminology. So it doesn't mean highly sensitive people aren't "real" either but its another label or way to identify something that describes us all in different ways. This affects us all differently, the world affects us all in different ways and we are all just different.

I personally think this is just another label to categorize us all (such as those that are emotionally reactive, or those that are "labile" or have pervasive disorders which is a spectrum now not Autism versus Aspergers diagnosis- or like mental retardation where you can be high functioning or low functioning - it is more, in other words, a descriptor - a way of describing individuals) Overall, we are all just different. And there are different words to describe us all. And yes, some of us more sensitive than others. Me included.



PS Sorry I only come back when I am feeling down/cranky. I need to visit more often.