Uh...why is there a red x for this thread?

I wondered the same thing. I didnt put it there, it appeared after the thread was posted. Perhaps the moderators wanted folks to know it was a violent thread.

That is the trigger icon and yes, it should always be used for anything that may be "triggering" ie upsetting to other members http://neurotalk.psychcentral.com/im...consb/trig.gif

sorry to hear of the trauma your daughter has been through Dejibo

Sounds like she is handling this very, very well! She sounds like a "with it" young lady.

Selling it for $1 is better than ruining her credit. Or donate it if possible. Bad credit hurts so many aspects of life these days. Car insurance prices, job possibilities, many things people don't think of.

She went back with her best friend and both spent the night last night. I was surprised and impressed when she called me today to tell me what happened. She said she is not about to let him run her out of HER home. Her friend is going to stay for the next couple of weeks with her, so perhaps she can get over that hump. I guess the choice was made after a survivors of suicide meeting she attended.

There is no common law marriage in her state so she is not entitled to keep any of his stuff, but his parents are so blaze' about the whole thing she feels like she wants some concrete answers from them. SHE called them! she told them she emailed a list of his personal belongings that they can have if they want, and if she doesnt hear from them in 5 days she will donate everything on the list. She wont be held hostage by being forced to keep his things safe for them. She told them that he purchased many things for their new home and they are INSTALLED meaning she isnt giving them up! He purchased and installed them for the home, and by statute of the law once installed they become part of the home. Just as they wouldnt ask her to rip up a wood floor to return it, they cant ask her to uninstall and air conditioning unit or a hard wired generator. If they wish to be compensated for such items she suggests they look to his estate, not to his EX girlfriend for repayment. She said flat out, he bought these things for ME/US and I am keeping them. She emailed them some links to sites that explain the laws in her state. GOOD FOR HER!

The floor is fixed, the wall is fixed. she said the carpenter did such a great job you cant tell where the hole was. She purchased a new bed, mattress and bedding. She said she is going this week to adopt a small doggie from the humane society and will have something that will force her to get out of bed, feed it, and pay attention to it so that she wont be allowed to sit on the couch and stare off into space.

im just so proud of her. She started seeing a therapist on Monday who suggested the suicide survivor groups. Good for her!

Dej, your daughter is an amazing woman. I am so glad that she has such a wonderful support system in her family and friends. I cannot begin to imagine what it would be like to go through something like this.My thoughts are with you and your daughter. :hug:

Wow Dej...sounds like a true survivor...prayers will continue for her strength & healing.:hug:

I think your daughter is an amazing person. Also, as my mom would say, “She’s been brung up right.” Please tell her for me.

Yes, good for her! She's not letting him win. :)

Is that 5 days what the law allows?

I dont know what the law allows, but she is angry now (which I love) and feels they are being disrespectful of her by allowing this stuff to stay until they can find the time. DO IT NOW! or lose it forever is her motto. Its painful for her to have to see this stuff, smell this stuff, or deal with this stuff. she refuses to pay someone to move it to storage. I am glad she didnt bury her head in the sand and wait for it to take care of itself.

The parents came this morning and cherry picked a couple of items. then they told her that she could have the rest. They suggested that she have a yard sale and earn some extra cash. She said "im having a BONFIRE with what you leave behind! so take it now or watch it burn!" OMG! WTG kiddo! They changed their minds and took more things at that point. She said she felt they were trying to be charitable with her as if she was some hopeless case, and she wont allow that. They left behind some nice things too.

there is a party at her house tonight. Fireworks, music, and love. its also a BLUE MOON tonight (2nd full moon in a month) and she is having a bonfire! Whatever got left behind is being sacrificed to the heavens. She said she doesnt want to see it, smell it, or move it. ENOUGH! so each friend will get a chance to say how they feel (angry or upset or just missing him) and then gets to chuck something on the fire. She was going to donate the stuff, but this way gives her friends a way to be heard and express themselves in a way that was unacceptable during a regular service for him.

im so proud of her. :cool: