NeuroTalk Support Groups - My DDs b/f shot himself in front of her!

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Originally Posted by SallyC (Post 910561)

Wouldn't a charity be better than burning it. Put some of his dirty old clothes in the bon fire and the good stuff to the battered women's home.:hug:

Im with you sally! I hate waste! I think its a shame to burn things when they could be used by others and loved and enjoyed. My DD is normally quite charitable and its uncommon for her to be wasteful, but if this is the therapy she needed in order to help let go, and give his energy back to the universe then I cant do much to stand in her way.

I had a short conversation with her today and she said they burned his favorite jeans, sweaters and some other items that were favorites of his. She has chosen after speaking to her friends to donate the boots, electronics and so forth. She spoke of freeing that was to be able to allow her anger to burn on that pile while she screamed at him for being selfish and venting about what a bad position he put her in by being so selfish. So, in the end we have a split decision. She burned some but the rest is being gathered today and dropped off at the battered womens shelter/salvation army, and the soup kitchen. She has chosen to sell his extremely expensive laptop and will donate the money to the soup kitchen.

I am glad this has motivated her to do more than sit on the couch and cry. if that means a bon fire, so be it! I am not sure I would have handled it with nearly the same amount of grace and courage. This is not someone who died in a car accident or thru no fault of his own. he inflicted his violent end on her. I just dont think I could do it half as well as she is doing it. Im going to cut her a lot of slack on this one.