Victoria- If your mom is off work for depression, perhaps that is what is affecting her? Doesn't make it right or easy. backing off is completely the right way to go...give her some time to come to her senses.

My parents once came to visit (they are a plane ride away for good reason) and were so obnoxious i told them not to come back until they straightened their attitude out. It was hard, and three years later we are still repairing the damage but it is getting better. My mom and i were always really close, but when I got married it took her a while to figure out how much she missed not being my first line of communication. She supported me a lot when I was younger, financially in the early years and mentally later. I was a single mom from 19 until 29. It was hard for her to realize that I was grown up and my opinions and methods of doing things were my own instead of hers.

Anyhow, once I drew the line we really aired some issues that had been boiling under the surface for a while and we're better for it today.

I am sure your parents love you, and that you will figure it out in time. Harder when you are so interconnected- adults in the same house is always hard...make it your parents and it is doubly hard !!! Of all human relationships, I think the daughter-mother is the most tumultuous and long lasting, but also the closest.



Good luck,

Johanna

hi, thanks for the support you have both hit some pretty sore spots and are correct in exactly what you are saying....we are adults living in the same home and it is diffiuclt esp. b/c we are exactly alike we will say the same thing at the same time or pick up the same sweater to buy even if we are hundreds of miles apart......but boy was it a blow out. I feel neglected and told that I am not good enough...but her issue is deeper I think...she won 't say what she means she tells you what she thinks you want to hear....and lately I have been getting her to work on this.....thankfully Dad is solid right now and I dont think she has told him what has happened.....but I am ready to move out I can't live like this stuck in the basement....I feel like that guy in the goonies movie...ok dating myself....lol.....but I do the freak in the basement that she dosn't or dosn't want to understand........I am going to just stay out of her way if I can and let her calm down it effeted her more than me I think.....anyhow thanks guys....as for the depression thing...it was harassment at work and I don't think she is really depressed....she is not coping iwth the issues of harrasment and is using it as an excuse for me to do everything....I am the parent in the role and it is driving me NUTS!!! anyhow......

I just had my anesthetic injections and hope they work, but I can't even lift my arm as far as I could before which really wasn't that far anyhow....is a great effort!!! it will settle...perhaps I will watch a movie and crochet....hmmm nice idea...turn on the fire and relax...oh you guys are great!!! love ya'll (love that saying!! )

take care all and love and hugs to everyone.......
Victoria

Today I am kind of back... it has been a long week thus far, and I do thank all for the condolances for the passing of my uncle! You all want to hear something strange that just may send a shiver down ones spine... he was pronounced dead at 7:37 an his grandfathers clock stopped at 7:37 I do not know if I mentioned that or not, but just gives me the willies, also my youngest who said he did not want to be a pall-bearer in his dream the night before had a dream (or something??) that he said my uncle told him he would be OK and he wanted him to be part of the service... dream or not he was sure it was my uncle talking to him....
On a brighter note got to meet Beth and share breakfast with her and Di Marie, my luck, me the lone male being able to spend time with two wonderful ladies amazing thing is that sitting down with anybody who is going through the same pain and troubles, makes us seem so close like we have know each other for years, though would rather meet all under circumstance minus the pain
Victoria, I hope things work out for the best with you and to all I hoe the day goes about free of pain and that something nice takes place for you today!!!!
Mark-n-Goober

am able to write in the forum. Last week, I was in a bad mood, had a lot of pain - the whole situation was difficult, so I didn`t post.

I am late to express my sympathies to Mark - I am so sorry for the loss of you uncle! I hope you are not too sad.

Tomorrow, I will fly to France and spend 8 days there - I hope I will return with more energy than I have actually!

I wish you all a good day - without pain or familiar problems!!!!!
Barbara

Today - i am so sick of computers !
I stupidly downloaded a highly rated registry cleaner and performance tweaker program- never again! {BoostXP - don't use it}

it tweaked my XP alright - totally messed it up and also the restore system wouldn't work either.

so i had to reinstall XP which took 5 tries for some reason spent all day sunday on it and then most of monday getting system back to the settings as we like.
plus I thought i emailed my address book to another email addy so i wouldn't lose them all and could get them when i was ready for them - nope nowhere to be found.

So if any of you would like to - send me an email, PM or post on my website on my profile page- so I can build my address book back.

thanks

That's one reason I don't post that much anymore. I have the voice recognition software but my computer doesn't run it very well and it freezes on me all the time, and sometimes it miss spells so many words that I have to fix, I end up in a lot of pain after anyway. Coop

Had my MRA/MRV this afternoon
Had to take major meds to take the pain away after.
Was in the chamber for over 45 minutes
They couldn't get the contrast medium running smoothly through the IV
This is with my hands over my head as tears ran down my face the whole time.
No films with my arms down, why?
After the hell I went through today
I just want it to verify Dr. Collins' report.
However, i just researched and an MRV is only 2D not 3D like Collins'.

Do I suggest an arterial doppler and by whom?

OH MY!

Hope you're starting to feel better.

I wonder if they were having problems getting the contrast to run BECAUSE of arterial compression?

just a layman's thought...


marabunta

as per Doppler ultrasound.....vascular surgeon will get this for you or your family doc....make sure they put you in all the provocative positions....
take care
Victoria

ok big cpu issues!!!! could not get it to work trying to remove dos virus and can't still there and is adding network so tried in dos to do something and fried the darn thing!!! so sent it back to dell and got a new system board and back to capacity so soon will be burining cds to send out...however leaving on sunday to go to Calgary for a week and then back to b-town to move my things and get out of parents for good...at least dad is talking to me......Mom...well another story all together....no worth the effort right now she is cold and has no feelings....truely!!!

ok all have a great weekend will be superbusy for me and will miss my kitty when I put her in the kennel......the cats pajama's sounds nice and is vet tech who runs it so should be good! anyhow rambling on again as per usual

hugs and love to ya'll will miss you for the next little while likely two weeks....or at least until past the 20th of March.......will miss ya

love and hugs,
Victoria