So my therapist tells me to minimize stress and focus on resting. What do you do when you lose your job, find out your teenager has been smonillaking pot after finding all kinds of pharaphailla. When confronted he tells you hes not going to stop and btw he hates my husband. I don't know how I can control this when living is a struggle with
out the stress. I feel like im in a fog, kinda outside myself. My head has daggers running through it and im exhausted. How do we deal when life is out of control?

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That sounds horrible. My best advice is that if there's stuff going on so bad you can't see the positive side of it, it's better to make the decision to feel 'flat' rather than stressed. So you try to detach yourself from your emotions and just not engage with them. It's not very nice, but for me it was better for my brain than the whirlwind of stress chemicals/stimulation when I was stressed out about something.

I'm not saying it's easy or that I would manage it fine in your situation, but it is I think the best thing to try. I would add that losing your job is perhaps a better thing than going on wondering and stressing about whether or not you will lose your job - it closes the situation and gives you a fixed set of circumstances to adjust to while you heal, rather than constant uncertainty and stress that comes with it.

Best wishes

Thank you for the advice. This morning my son didnt want to go to school. I told his dad if he continues these behaviors then he will have to take him. Im so sad by his actions. The whole house is on edge. I guess one step at a time. My husband is so upset because he wants me to get better and he can see the toll this has on me.

That sounds to me like a good decision. The best thing you can do for your son right now is to get yourself better, and getting others to take more responsibility for stressors like this is one of the ways you will achieve that.