They have a juvanile program. Im surprised he hasn't been caught. I told him if he gets caught there isn't a whole lot we can do. Hes thinking about my contract. I gave his dad a copy so we are all on the same page. I explained the seriousness of what stress is doing to me. the contract gives him ways to earn and appreciate what freedoms and privlages are all about. If he follows it his self esteem will go up. He will have a good life. Ive put structure and routine in the contract. I think its important. Saturday we will go hiking together. I plan on spending more quality time with him. Moneys been tight so I will have to be creative. I do love my son and before my accident I would have no problems dealing but even though I tell myself im ok all I need to do is look in the mirror to see the strain on my head. I am so thankful to have this group. Pcs can be very lonely and very confusing. its nice to have people who relate to each other.

I do agree with the tough love. His behavior as you describe isn't good. My son was very responsible, and continued on in education and goals. Never a trouble to me. I hope your son will continue his education, and not use the substance if it causes him to be irresponsible. I would do the same as you are doing with tough love. I hope it works out for him, that he can continue to grow into a good adult. Have you insisted on coucel? My son also had alot of friend who engaged in this kind of behavior during high school. Not one continued on negatively. Several are permanet Navy guys currently working overseas as did my son in the first gulf war. all the others that I keep in touch with have families of their own and jobs. Not one has continued on with using that substance. I hope your son grows out of that behavior. ginnie

Yesterday was a great day. He was on task, did everything he should of done. He was chatty and I actually got the boys to sit down to dinner. We've got a long way to go. He started therapy last week and goes back again on Monday. I'm bringing the contract for her to review and feedback. I think if we are all on the same page it leads to no gray areas. He is a good kid but I think he is losing his way. Hopefully with all of our support and structure he will get through this.

I sure hope it goes good for your family too. It sounds like you are right on track to get some help and councel. I know you are doing your very best to keep your son from going down the wrong path. ginnie