[AmyMarie]

I have not been here on this forum that long, but, I was curious if there are any other members in my situation (wife where DH has PCS)?

My DH is still not that far into having PCS and he is struggling with his symptoms. What I mean by struggle is not accepting the fact that he has PCS. The doctors did not tell him he could not go back to work, did not perscribe him any meds outside hospital stay, etc. I tell him constantly that he needs to calm down, relax after a day at work, etc. Also that he needs to eliminate stressors in his life at the moment.

Yesterday, we went to visit his family which is over an hour drive. Of course I drove but it seems everytime we go over there, his father always has to bring up past situations as conversation and it always ends up with loud talking. They know his condition and it goes in one ear and out the other. I told him at one point during the visit that I was actually getting a headache from all the yelling and loud talking. He just told me to calm down and sit down. He had no concern for me whatsoever and at that point, I was fed-up and ready to call it a day. When we got home, he went straight to bed and I ended up kicking him out of bed because he kept me up for hours not being able to sleep, headache, pressure, etc and he found his place on the couch.

He works a part-time job as well as his fulltime job and he is working today 9-5. He told me on the phone during his break he was not doing well and I kept my mouth shut. I was ready to attack him and bring up what happened yesterday but I kept my mouth shut when, in fact, yesterdays events are impacting him today. I showed some sympathy in telling him I was sorry and that he should be taking breaks. He said it was to busy for him to take breaks and all of a sudden, he also blamed the fact that I shoo'ed him outta bed on the couch as a major factor in him feeling symptomatic. I was like what the h***

My DH is not computer-savy and I told him about this forum I am associated with to get information and to help "US" out while he is in recovery. I always inform him of new information I come upon; he never comes to me and asks questions about his PCS. I am about ready to give up. For how can you help someone who does not want to help themselves?

This forum is loaded with information for people with TBI's and PCS. Most of the members are sufferers of such medical conditions whereas I am married to someone who does. I am looking for any information on support for someone like myself who is on the other end. I can only do so much and with me ranting on about this so early on in his injury, I am afraid it is just going to get worse and I will be the one who will lose it