tamisue,

College is harder for most brains at 46. They do not grasp and store information like they used to. When the older students achieve well, it is usually due to maturity, not better brains. Your brain after an injury will struggle even more and tolerate the stress of school and life less.

You may actually be able to be a benefit to your husband. As he ages, he would benefit from slowing down a bit. The older brain does not tolerate stress or habitual fast and complex thought like it used to. You can check out mortality tables and see how stress effects brains as they enter midlife years.

I do my best thinking and communicating in text. Talking can get too difficult as I try to process complex issues. When I slow down and type out my thoughts, I do much better.

I was an over-achiever for much of my life. Even after I learned to slow down, I was still an over-achiever. I just did it in spurts. I have had to learn to slow down many times during my life. Each time, my life improved as I slowed down. There is too much to be missed when you are in a hurry trying to achieve.

My best to you.