Yes, the big question is, what kind of therapy or what can help with all this!?

This is such a severe problem, not kidding, one day.....I'm going to be in the wrong place and someone will set me off and God only knows, it's frightening, I can feel it happening, it's a sudden huge rush of intense rage, I explode at home, try not to in public but has happened.

I explode, rant and rave and scream, throw things then can feel myself calming.

And yes, the F word is rampant, going from someone who was calm in situations to...if someone is glaring at me, going from zero to ten.

Good idea to go shopping on off hours, certainly not Friday nights, weekends...usually do that if possible.

What do we do about this??

Well, that's my suggestion from what I've read

I can be that "Mommy Monster" at times which is SUPER out of character for me- I used to be known as 'the nicest person' and this is a new and strange territory for me.

Therapy helps, but I have suffered with double vision and sadly seeing "2" of my therapist was too hard on me to focus so I have turned to books to learn to cope.

Books:
Open Focus
The Power of Now
Yoga Nidra (as this teaches feeling opposite emotions and learning to control them through awareness)
and
The DBT workbook for Anxiety

Also taking a Time Out when I start noticing a rise in my frustration helps. I go for a long walk and don't come back until my mindset has changed.

Guided Meditation- Mindfulness for 15 minutes even if my mind wanders everywhere, changes my mental state allowing me to react differently to a situation.

Notice the Physical Sensations you feel with anger and changing your posture. Just like how they say putting a pencil in your mouth makes you 'feel' happier. Changing my furrowed brow to a more relaxed facial expression seems to help me.

Just keep at it. It's really difficult at times for sure- especially to become aware that you're doing it. But remember that you are not that behavior and it's just a bad habit you've picked up and know that habits can be changed with effort. Good luck!