Moose:

I read everything you said.

As far as No. 2 is concerned "put her in a car and drive her to rehab".

I don't drive, and we live in different states. We see each other from time to time but she won't drive long distances and it's her husband who takes her evrywhere. So that option is not going to happen.

And get this.

Two minutes ago, she called me all hysterical.

Her son has been admitted YET AGAIN, to the hospital for pancreatitis. He's been drinking since he's 18 and he's now 31. He might also have pneumonia.

She called me from the lawyer's office because she's involved in a dispute over a will, and this dispute involves her family.

Her family won't let her be with them when they testify and accused her of threatening them this morning (when she was in the hospital with her son). Her husband was with her.

Her family ARE PIECES OF WORK, believe me on this. They are after money and they'll go right over her.

So, in HER mind, she has no supportive family, her son is an alcoholic and is AGAIN hospitalized, she is in an unhappy marriage, blah blah blah.

I wasn't prepared for the phone call this morning. I knew she was going to see her mother and other family members but she was not prepared for them to accuse her of what they did. And no one thought the son would have the crisis he had.

A family member died two years ago and EVERYBODY wants a piece of the will and everybody is suing everybody and they are all accusing each other of this and that. This goes on all the time when it comes to estates, trusts, wills, etc. This I know.

But she cries and says "but she was my mother, what kind of a mother does that". I would say "When it comes to fighting over money, the greed comes out in everybody, so just get clean and sober and stop focusing on YOUR MOTHER, because you can't do anything about YOUR MOTHER but you can DO SOMETHING ABOUT YOURSELF.

Doesn't work, because her coping mechanism is alcohol. I know that after the court case is over by this afternoon, she'll visit her son in the hospital, then she'll go home and get plastered. She absolutely is not up to getting clean and sober. that much is obvious.

It's very hard to walk away from someone when their son is in the hospital and she HAS ABSOLUTELY NO FAMILY MEMBERS to talk to her (whether on the phone or in person).

No one is a winner in this case. I fear for her sanity.

Her voice was trembling. She was sober (because she was in the courthouse in a stairwell).

I told her "you must stop crying, comport yourself, and stand up, go back in the court room and face your mother and family. Don't break down.

I have no idea what's going to happen.

Good Lord, it's hard enough having an addiction problem, but then your son's in the hospital, (because he's an alcoholic), and now your mother is in the court room accusing you left and right.

I never heard of so much drama in one day in all my life.

I know I gave her good support over the phone.

This woman WILL NEVER GO FOR HELP. Not on her own merit. She will probably have a breakdown, be hospitalized and then she'll be FORCED TO GO TO REHAB. At least I think that's what happens.

I might be wrong.

Her husband is so embarassed by all of this all he does is get mad, calls me up and says;

"why can't she stop drinking"??? He is from another country and they drink socially all the time.

I just calmly said "she has a disease, she needs to go into rehab".

His response" "that's ridiculous, I can have a drink now and then, why can't she".

Oh, and you'll love this. Last year, they did an intervention on the son.

All the father's family came over to do the intervention. What did they bring with them? A bottle of vodka.

I just stared at the phone and said "what???"

Someone had the wisdom to say: "put that away, he's coming down to the kitchen".

Good Lord.

Melody