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Originally Posted by Yellowfever

I am checking in! Yes I was a good girl this week But routines are impossible for me. I have all the effort and man, I still sort of failed but I have not given up on doing routines

Dude! You're mahh Heroine!

I mean... "sort of failed" means, you somewhat succeeded, yes?

And all the effort is a success all by itself! Can't succeed if you don't try!

I hope everyone is doing well and I have decided that I want to dedicate more of my time to my studies and prayer for anyone who needs prayer.

I think this is an awesome proposition. You're GRRRRREEATTT!

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[Pamster]

Had agood meeting/lunch with Mom and kiddo yesterday. He didn't want to do it at first, but when we got to Wendy's and saw her he felt better and got out of the car. THen we went inside and ordered. He hugged her tight, and on the way home I asked him, "Did you have fun seeing Granny?" and he said, "Yes," so I know he had a good time.

I still don't feel stable emotionally, not sure why, but when I saw a car like my old white Chevy Corsica it triggered a tiny crying jag as I was heading home. I controlled it, but I miss my car, I wish it hadn't begun falling apart. Oh well, At least I got new tires for the Olds, it drives SO much better now. I feel 100% safer in it now. TOday we're probably going to the pool for one of our last pool excursions, they close it Oct. 31st so our passes have expired, and it's not worth buying a new one for one month so we'll just outright pay for it.

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Glad to hear you had a good day yesterday.

I know what you mean... i miss my cars terribly. i don't even drive any more - only use public transport. i won't get into it. but i miss it.



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[Pamster]

It's hard, every time I see one of those cars it gets me right here *points to heart* I feel for you waves. If we had better public transport here I might via for that but it's not really good here in this little county.

[befuddled2]

I am washing clothes now and have washed some dishes.

Waves, bobby had cateact surgery. I can not dismiss how I feel. I've been told by the hospital that I'm not contagious. Bobby coughs from smoking so because I have a sinsus infection and cough mine is different in their eyes. bobby had a sinus infection and is congested and the 90 year old woman did not tell him to stay home from Hanks.

Barbara

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i'm sorry about that Barbara.

Well. I can understand feeling bad about the woman telling you to stay home (if i got that straight). Sounds like she feels a bit possessive of Bobby.

I don't really know how one is supposed to behave (with regard to being around people with sinus infections) when one has just had cataract surgery.

But I am sorry you are getting hurt in all this. I guess if i were to make any suggestion it would be to try to think about it as little as possible, but i know that is easier said than done.

Often things are a little different than they seem. Bobby has really been a good friend - and I don't think that has changed even if he is avoiding you because of your cough, whether because of the cataract surgery itself or because the elderly friend spooked him about "germs" somehow.

So, at least keep reminding yourself that he is STILL your good friend. I believe steering clear of your cough is "about him" and transitory. I don't think it indicates your friendship is any less, and i hope you will not let it impact it either.

I am sorry though. It really is crummy to be sick and have to stay holed up, and then just when you think you will get to hang out with a friend, the person lets you down. Hang in there the best you can.

You can still cough on US all you want it comes "clean" across the wire!!!



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[bizi]

Dear BArbara,
jsut curious, how is bobby's foot? It was not doing well last time you mentioned it...is it better? He has more than one health issue going on, try not to internalize too much and assume the worst. You could become co dependant on him real easily if you put all of your heart "eggs" in one basket. He is human just as you are.
Ultimately we are all frail on the inside.
Be at peace with yourself.
bizi

[befuddled2]

Thank you Waves and Bizi.

I'm not sure how Bobby's foot is doing cause the subject hasn't come up in a long time.

I am still upset unfortunetly and do plan to say something to Bobby but maybe just not as much now. I am not going to let my feelings go unoticed or unexpressed as this is me and and I want for it to be resolved. I had lots of unresolved issues with my ex and I know how they can build up and be very detrimental.

barbara

[befuddled2]

Well, after reading from others online I have decided to just act like nothing is wrong with me and Bobby. I realize that the problem is really with the almost 90 year old woman that has been treating me so bad. I'm sure she does not like all the attention Bobby use to lavish on her and now lavishes on me. She has really been treating me super bad now for a couple of weeks or more. I'm just not going to deal with her anymore. When Bobby wants for me to meet him in Hanks I'll tell him no because of the way someone has been treating me in there. I won't mention any names.

Barbara

[Dmom3005]

Barb

I can understand your feeling and thoughts. But since I have a 93 year
old mother in law. I can also see why the 90 year old woman might be
wanting his company too.

We had to set up visitors for my mother in law, because I didn't have the
kind of time she wanted or needed each day.

Still try to spend time there, but she has companions most days so its not
as important.

Donna