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Mari 04-30-2012 11:17 AM

Bobby,
That is marvelous! You are brave. You are real.

M

waves 04-30-2012 11:59 AM

Dear Bobby
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by mymorgy (Post 874758)
thank you so much for your very kind post and calling me brave rather than foolish. my sister didn't tell my nephews i was bipolar which i think was bad because it is genetic. I think a warning is important. i guess i might speak to dr.m. about telling and see what he has to say.
thank you again for your support
love
bobby

LoL Not at all... You are brave. If you feel "foolish"... question that feeling. Is more of a feeling awkard?... foolish involves judgement... awkward does not. Are you combining a judgement with a feeling? You don't need to answer me ... or even yourself... you can just ask yourself the question and let it sit. ;)

I agree it would be important to share with your nephews that you are bipolar. Are they adults? I would say it is their mother's choice until they are adults. After that, there is nothing wrong with telling them yourself. As a courtesy, I would talk to your sister first, and tell her how you feel about it, and that you want them to know. She might come around and decide to tell them herself. If she does not, at least she will know that you are going to tell them... She won't fall over backwards should they then go to her with questions about you. Just my thoughts.

Good idea to see what Dr. M. says. :)

love

~ waves ~

Dmom3005 04-30-2012 04:43 PM

Bobby

I agree with Mari' You are very much Brave.

And its great to be able to share that you are Bi-Polar II. Personally I
wouldn't remember the differences between I and II so I would just
get the Bi-Polar part.

But I also think its important to have family know . It runs very much
in my family. So its very important that my niece and nephews know.

But we haven't tried to explain to the younger ones yet. But they will
know as they get older. My grandchildren under 10 do not know yet
either.

Donna:grouphug::hug:

bizi 04-30-2012 09:57 PM

Hugs to you tonight.
(((((HUGS)))))
bizi

Mari 05-01-2012 02:14 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by mymorgy (Post 874727)
thank you Mari
i ate too much yesterday too. i did another thing i guess i shouldn't have done. a former classmate called for a fiftieth reunion. we talked and i told her i was bipolar II. my friends said i shouldn't have mentioned it. I told Carly that i was telling her because i didn't want it to be a stigma...at the end of the conversation i told her she could repeat what i told her. I have this urge to tell people and since i am no longer looking for a job i do. part of it is to explain my former behavior.
bobby

Dear Bobby,

Did you feel better telling your classmate about bipolar? 'Probably it made you feel relieved . . .
It is good you told her. Maybe by talking about it, you kind of own it more.
Lots and lots of people have people they are related to, live near, work with, and so on who have mental illness. People are not surprised. How they process the information is up to them. I hope that this person seemed to handle hearing about it.

Many of us working are not free to talk about MI. I have told one person I have anxiety and sleep problems. I had to tell my direct supervisor about my "sleep disorder." That's it. You are lucky that you now feel ok about talking about yourself.

M

mymorgy 05-01-2012 06:24 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by waves (Post 874828)
LoL Not at all... You are brave. If you feel "foolish"... question that feeling. Is more of a feeling awkard?... foolish involves judgement... awkward does not. Are you combining a judgement with a feeling? You don't need to answer me ... or even yourself... you can just ask yourself the question and let it sit. ;)

I agree it would be important to share with your nephews that you are bipolar. Are they adults? I would say it is their mother's choice until they are adults. After that, there is nothing wrong with telling them yourself. As a courtesy, I would talk to your sister first, and tell her how you feel about it, and that you want them to know. She might come around and decide to tell them herself. If she does not, at least she will know that you are going to tell them... She won't fall over backwards should they then go to her with questions about you. Just my thoughts.

Good idea to see what Dr. M. says. :)

love

~ waves ~

they are adults....they all have children. i don't speak to them although i spoke to two of them last thanksgiving and told one and found out Myra hadn't told him. being bipolar is such a part of me. it is almost as if i have a compulsion to say i am bipolar so the other person knows who i really am. i don't have a compulsion to say my financial status though lol.
love
bobby

mymorgy 05-01-2012 06:29 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Mari (Post 875015)
Dear Bobby,

Did you feel better telling your classmate about bipolar? 'Probably it made you feel relieved . . .
It is good you told her. Maybe by talking about it, you kind of own it more.
Lots and lots of people have people they are related to, live near, work with, and so on who have mental illness. People are not surprised. How they process the information is up to them. I hope that this person seemed to handle hearing about it.

Many of us working are not free to talk about MI. I have told one person I have anxiety and sleep problems. I had to tell my direct supervisor about my "sleep disorder." That's it. You are lucky that you now feel ok about talking about yourself.

M

i am lucky i can talk about it. i wouldn't feel free if i were still working. at the end of my working, the bipolar without medication prevented me from working.
i fought a lot at work and was triggered a lot and was severely depressed and anxious. I didn't know i was bipolar.
I don't know what Carly really thought when i told her. she didn't miss a beat though.
bobby

bizi 05-01-2012 09:10 AM

Maybe she knew already??? or maybe it did not register??? or maybe she doesn't know what that means and was hesitant to ask???
I don't know...
bizi

waves 05-01-2012 12:04 PM

class reunion
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by mymorgy (Post 875049)
at the end of my working, the bipolar without medication prevented me from working. ... i fought a lot at work and was triggered a lot and was severely depressed and anxious. I didn't know i was bipolar.

That sounds terrible. I am sorry you went through that. :( I had different problems that got me into trouble also. I didn't know I was bipolar either. I wonder how things might have turned out for us had we known, and been treated, sooner. :o :hug::hug::hug: I guess that is an alternate universe... :rolleyes:;)
Quote:

I don't know what Carly really thought when i told her. she didn't miss a beat though.
Sounds like she took it in alright, whether or not she knew what it meant.

Quote:

Originally Posted by bizi (Post 875077)
maybe she doesn't know what that means and was hesitant to ask???

Yes, that does sound plausible. It sounds like she was interested enough that she might look it up or ask somebody else afterwards.

I hope everything works out with this Bobby. You mentioned you guys were talking about a reunion... When would that be? Do you want to go?

love

~ waves ~

mymorgy 05-02-2012 06:37 AM

i don't want to go to the reunion. it would cost me probably at least five hundred dollars because i don't have a car and i would have to take a lot of cabs besides train and stay at a motel. also i am embarrassed over my teeth and weight. it is funny but i have gotten a lot of negative feedback about my telling carly that i am bipolar II. two of my friends even said why bother to say i am bipolar II instead of just saying bipolar. one of my friends said why didn't i just say i have depression issues. I really got mad. a lot of celebrities are now coming out with they are bipolar and they are functioning non pyschotic individuals. they are removing the stigma. i am now really happy i said something. yeah.
last night i had to take two klonopin at night. i have been a bit high since the rent control decision was made. i have had more anxiety. it has also increased my anxiety. three of my friends from the senior center came over yesterday to meet my cats. it was nice. ralph came back from Haiti. he learned two weeks ago his fifty five year old wife who he has been married to for twenty two years wants out. he is a young eighty. I feel so badly for him.
she wants to buy him out of the apartment. he might move back to Haiti. he said he can get a prefab house two bedroom for seven thousand dollars and his son in law has a lot of land. Interestingly he said there are a lot of kidnappings there. It was so nice seeing him and so sad hearing his story.
love
bobby


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