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03-23-2007, 07:04 AM | #1 | |||
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It's All in Your Head
And Other Thoughtless Things Said! How often have you been accused of whining or being a hypochondriac? Do people think you are just a complainer, an attention-seeker, when depression makes it difficult for you to cope with daily life? Are you told that "there is absolutely nothing wrong with you"? Do people tell you to "get over yourself"? I am sure that everyone with bipolar disorder have had those completely thoughtless things said which we can quote verbatim five, ten and even thirty years down the road. Sometimes those with whom we interact can be narrow-minded and cutting. And, for every person who says something deliberately hurtful to a person with mental illness, there are a dozen who say things thoughtlessly or out of ignorance. Unfortunately – regardless of intent - words wound, fester and scar. The following is a short list of things people say that are often intended to be helpful, but are actually tactless. Perhaps these will better equip you to respond to the thoughtless comments and to illustrate the need for each of us to better think through our word choices.
Kahn, D.A., Keck, P.E., Perlis, R.H., Otta, M.W., & Ross, R. (2004). Treatment of Bipolar Disorder: A Guide for Patients and Families. From www.bipolar.about.com
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. Enjoy when you can, and endure when you must. -- Goethe Diagnoses: FM, Sciatica, Rosacea, Piriformis Syndrome, SI joint disfunction, Joint Facet Syndrome L3-L5, Pinched Nerve (somewhere on the left side), Depression, Anxiety and Bipolar II . |
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03-23-2007, 07:48 AM | #2 | |||
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You've created this problem for yourself, so just get over it and move on. I am out of patience with you. Don't bother me with this again.
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. . . . Cats nap, only humans put them "to sleep". Sterilize, don't euthanize!! BJ Last edited by BJ; 03-23-2007 at 07:49 AM. Reason: spelling |
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03-23-2007, 09:46 AM | #3 | ||
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Great post! Yes, yes, yes. Things I hear so often about me and my son.
Very thoughtful, Wendy. Thank you! |
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03-23-2007, 11:17 AM | #4 | |||
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Ditto - so true......................people can be cruel, they just don't understand BP.
Great post, Thanks, Nikko |
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03-23-2007, 03:45 PM | #5 | |||
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Sometimes what I hear is, "everyone's got problems," which conveys to me they don't want to hear mine.
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03-23-2007, 03:53 PM | #6 | ||
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That's how I feel too, befuddled. It feels like they are trivializing the pain I am feeling. Or, like you said, don't want to even hear about it.
I want to hear you though. Nobody can walk in our shoes, can they? |
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03-23-2007, 06:36 PM | #7 | |||
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Mrs. Bear, thank your for you kind reply. I had been really down in the dumps all week until talking to a friend for a long time just now. Even though I mostly listened to her, it was still talking to someone. I just feel so isolated a lot with no children and being separated. I want to hear you too.
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03-23-2007, 09:00 PM | #8 | |||
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And the best one is……………you don’t want to get better. I love that one. Oh yes, I love feeling like I’m on a constant elevator ride and can’t decide which floor I want to get off. Oops I forgot, I’m supposed to be accepting this.
So be it. It doesn’t matter much anymore anyway.
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. . . . Cats nap, only humans put them "to sleep". Sterilize, don't euthanize!! BJ |
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03-23-2007, 09:05 PM | #9 | |||
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It matters...trust me, it matters.
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03-24-2007, 08:31 AM | #10 | |||
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Can you accept it and have it matter at the same time? I guess you can.
Here's the funny thing Todd accepts my BP better than I am. Maybe because he doesn't feel the ups and downs. I thought this might help some people. I get this attitude because of my other illnesses too but this is the first time I have found an article that covers just BP issues.
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. Enjoy when you can, and endure when you must. -- Goethe Diagnoses: FM, Sciatica, Rosacea, Piriformis Syndrome, SI joint disfunction, Joint Facet Syndrome L3-L5, Pinched Nerve (somewhere on the left side), Depression, Anxiety and Bipolar II . |
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