[Dmom3005]

The judge chose some interesting decisions.

First because there was really no reason for the restraining order last month.
He took it off. It ended up being no need for it.

He told my daughter-in-law that if he harrass, or any thing to get in touch.

THen he asked the guy if he had done what was suggested. Or why he
had waited 6 years to want visitation.

The guy said, nothing directly to the three or four different ways the
judge asked him if he had done what he was suggested to do. He just
kept saying they hadn't returned. The people from dcs, or the police.

THen he wouldn't give a reason other than he was buying a house. And
changing jobs, and things like that for not doing his visitation. Oh and
he didn't have her phone number. (But my daughter-in-law had the same
phone number for 3 or 4 years) And her mother has always had the same
house phone number.

THen he said she moved, which she did about 3 years ago.

He never as the judge called him on answered the direct answer.

So the judge said. He was suspending the visitation, because it was
a divorce situation. SO he had to come back with the divorce case
to get that restarted. But that the other would all be brought in
too. With the police and all.

Pretty much telling him, he might end up in jail.


So my daughter-in-law didn't understand what suspend meant. So
I had the judge explain. So he said, I'm canceling visitation till
its brought before as a divorce case.

So that is what happened. for now.

Donna

[waves]

Dear Donna

good news! thanks for sharing! what a relief!


~ waves ~

[Mari]

Donna,

How much will it cost him to file for divorce?
Where i live, people do not get divorced because it is too expensive.

M

[Dmom3005]

They are already divorced. He will have to re open the divorce case
Were there is a decision on how much support and visitation.

But it will still cost him quite a bit to do that.

Maybe even his freedom.

Donna

[bizi]

maybe he will just go away and leave them alone.
bizi

[waves]

Originally Posted by bizi

maybe he will just go away and leave them alone.
bizi

yeah i hope so!

[DiMarie]

Originally Posted by bizi

maybe he will just go away and leave them alone.
bizi

Wow Donna, this turned out much better then in our local court. I also hope he just goes away. Generally they just want out of support, and want no real interest in the visitation. Juat a way to hurt.
Glad it all turned out for the best.
di

[Dmom3005]

I'm of the opinion he will not want the can of worms of the situation
with the case of the molestation opened up.

And the judge made a big deal that it would be. That the police, and
the dcs. And everything would happen.

So to me if he wants all that to happen it would be in his ballpark.
I know that in the case of my granddaughter she can handle all of it
being retold again.

She relives it daily inside her head. I think maybe if she had to go to
court and tell it again. It might make her start to be able to heal after
its over. I personally think that might be part of the reason she still
has so much anger. Is because nothing never came of her having to
tell the story so many times.

So if it goes to the court room finally i think she will have closeure. The
only place she still tells the story is in her theropy ? cant spell the word.

With her mom's past she was good about getting her help right away. And
she makes sure if she needs to talk about it she knows to ask for her therapist. And she can talk at home if necessary. But its not something
that is made to happen, so it looks like it was coached. Hopefully
that makes sense.

Donna

[bizi]

How old is your grand daughter?
bizi

[Dmom3005]

She is 11 going to be 12 next month.

Donna