[Mari]

Originally Posted by waves

Interesting about the words.



I'd call it confrontation, or challenge, or conflict, when a doctor says, "Do this," and we say, "I don't want to because...", regardless of whether it is done nicely or not.

Sometimes, it is necessary to say no. At times a "no" can be replaced with strategic questions to bring the other person around. Other times, it is simpler for everyone to be direct, and just get the goods on the table. This doesn't mean one must be rude, insulting, or even aggressive, but it does mean one must be assertive.

It's funny, because I've never taken the word "confrontation" to imply aggression, and yet, I've always taken the word "non-confrontational" to mean "without aggression". How's that for coherence. Lol.

waves

Saying this:

"No, I am not going to take that med" is not confrontation.
I am not trying to clash with anyone. I am treating myself well.
I love and know myself more than anyone else does.
When I act with care for my needs, I feel comfortable about the communication.

That is all.

M

[waves]

Wars have been fought over people who love themselves protecting themselves and their rights. They aren't trying to clash... but are brought to a conflict by a difference of opinion.

When a doctor tells you to do something, it generally is not a request. Know the expression "doctor's orders"? Telling them "no", regardless of one's motives, and regardless of one's relative comfort doing it, is, IMHO, a confrontation.

That is how I see it, but I will happily agree to disagree on the term "confrontation" and its use.

The point remains:

Bizi is uncomfortable with [pick your favorite term to indicate the interaction where she tells the doctor "no"].

[bizi]

thanks you guys for your support.
My sister was left out of the loop when she found out on facebook that I was having a colonoscopy...its family and friends and probably TMI...oh well. she was wanting to share her experiences to help me thru mine.
I did find out this morning that I had a surgeon do the procedure and that this was not a surgical facility that IF I needed to have surgery to remove a mass it would be a different day and location...i think.
my scope came out clean though I was still "not clear" this am so had to have an enema at the last minute. He wrote a script for a pill for chronic constipation so I am hoping that this helps me. I wonder if I have a new doctor now who I have to see in order to get refills, he gave me 3 refills. maybe my regular doctor can write those scripts for me?
now I need to lie down I have alot of gas to get rid of and was up last night...like I thought that I would be 12,2,5;30, then 7...so I am tired.
hubby just left for a meeting of sorts not sure about that.
Had a cup of coffee right after procedure int he post op room which I was very grateful for. then went to "breakfast and I had a big biscuit plain it was yummy and sweet, plain mashed potatoes and a cup of mushy steamed brocolli, perfect.
bizi

[DiMarie]

Best sleep I ever had was the procedure. I had no polyps, dh did have few small ones with his. I took a drink you mix and drank through a straw, the second quart of it I threw up, I couldn't get anything down. I got through the night and was all clean.
The gas gave me cramps and I chewed the beano, it helped instantly.
Recoup quick!

Good luck on your test Bizi, start of the year focus on the parts of health you can.
Di

[Mari]

Originally Posted by bizi

thanks you guys for your support.
My sister was left out of the loop when she found out on facebook that I was having a colonoscopy...its family
bizi

You did great, Bizi.

Take is easy.

M

[Dmom3005]

Wow, I sure missed a lot. Glad it went well Bizi.

I have had many of these test. I can't do the liquid
they give anymore. So not sure how it will be done next
time. I throw the mix up after about 1/3 to 1/2 of it.

Donna

[bizi]

it was lemon lime gatorade and my sister used country time lemonaide mixed with a small bottle of miralax.
donna goes down much easier than the go lightly stuff.
bizi

[bizi]

sorry about my prep talk and such I can delete it out if anyone objects.
dinner tonight consisted of potato soup, raw cheddar cheese and some nuts.
I really put on weight over the holidays and such that I am the heaviest that I have been in years!
am going to not drink for a while and see how that goes.
and watching my weight.
anyway slow and sure they say.
bizi
I have a friend who is looking for support.
She is in a crisis and needing to find an out patient day program, this once a week talk about "meditation" therapy is not working for her. Although It takes a long time to get to the heart of matters and there are no quick fixes.
She needs to quit her job for her own sake and this is what she is struggling with. she teaches strings at a high school. She had already told them that she was leaving after the end of the semester but now she wants to quit now. She can't do it any longer. I feel for her.
bizi