She ended up calling me back crying paralyzed...it was terrible.She said the drive has been awful hours of no one talking, her daughter is 17 just graduated from high school. So there she sat... her and her negative thoughts she feels so alone. I finally gave her some advice.(I was grasping for straws) Her mother in law is elderly. I suggested that she focus on her...to look after her, help her get food, drink what ever she needed. I think she will do that. the wedding is tomorrow. She told me she has not been sleeping even though she is taking 12 mg of ambien....I think she needs to be hospitalized....
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bizi
I wonder how the rehearsal dinner went...don't know what time the wedding is...I am getting my hair colored tomorrow and then probably go to the gym.
I will text her in the morning.

That is very worrisome, Bizi.

Maybe after she comes back you can ask her if she'd be willing to check herself in.

I wonder if there are any other wrap-around care options. It does sound as though she needs something like that. :(

You are a good friend. You are doing the best you can. More you cannot do.

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Enjoy the hair dresser and the gym.

(((hugs))) :circlelove:

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thank you waves.
I texted her" how did it go last night?" and have not heard from her....
bizi

Rats! :( I wonder if she ever turns her phone off when she feels that rotten?
But also with the wedding today, assuming she went, she'll be super busy... at best. Let's hope for the super busy explanation. :o

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I texted her several times thru out the day and also her husband...no response...
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bizi

my mind thinks that what I said did not help....
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bizi
I did not make it to the gym today, my leg is sore still.
I am thinking about joining a running group tomorrow at 6 pm they are running 3 miles. maybe I could jog with them...or maybe they would run laps around me????
maybe I could ask my friend to go with me..?

If running with a group appeals to you, it might be nice. You might get some interesting feedback too, on what is a good idea and what is not when different places hurt.

Do they 'run' or 'jog', and what about you? I used to say I went running but I mostly used to jog. I know other people who 'run' though.... and they really run.

So then, it partly depends on the pace that you keep when you practice in the gym and whether it at least matches theirs. (OMG do I need to get used to writing practise again? :eek:) I'd have to look back, but you do more than 3 miles in the gym, right? So distance wise you should be covered at least.

this is a good point waves. I only jog. they may run! and may be a group of marathoners!
yikes I think I will post that question to them on facebook tonight they may answer tomorrow before the gathering.
thanks for making this point!
bizi who can't sleep because I drank too much so I took another klonipin....
I bought 2- 6 packs of beer, one a dark heavy stout and the other a high alcohol content hurricane flavored sweet beverage. That was an eight pack.
I need to be alcohol free again, feel the bloating and gaining weight....not good. have been drinking all week afraid to get on the scale again.
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bizi

these are runners I looked up some of the members times 8-9 minute miles.
3 mile runs. The route seems simple enough to not get lost so I could start with them and then finish on my own I suppose. If I jog at 5 mph that is roughly a 13 minute mile. They run in the evening which is perfect for me.
6 pm today...I am not going to be in any shape if I don't get to bed and sleep.
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klonipin is not kicking in am afraid.
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bizi

Sorry you can't sleep, Bizi. :(

I always find that getting trashed makes me super tired/sleepy... for a short while, but then I get super antsy as I start to sober up (have even had weird muscle jerks then). That lasts a while (sometimes hours), and I cannot sleep during that time, but after it subsides, I feel exhausted and then can sleep. I'm guessing your extra Klonopin usually mows through that antsy-phase. But it will abate on its own, too. It's just very inconvenient for getting up in the morning, not to mention unpleasant. :(

Hang in there. You will be ok. Tomorrow is a new day. And Sunday, so you can sleep later maybe?

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