If it wasn't for peace there would be no living in my house.

Donna :hug::grouphug:

Wow, $6.5K… I would be looking for moonlight and roses :hug:
I really have no say in how my husband spends "(his) money" though.

I got dressed and got all my laundry together this morning and was halfway out the door before I realized I had no detergent. I'll be backed up in laundry next week, but we won't be in dire need of anything. I was just at the store yesterday. Had I realized we were out I could have picked some up. I was bummed.

Things seem to be back to normal already. My husband requested I make an appointment for haircuts on Saturday. Yay! He hasn't seen the car since I cleaned it, but my work on it has obviously motivated him… He's talking about vacuuming it and buying new floor mats while we're out.
He got a new credit card and mentioned he was going to buy himself some "new toys," but I don't know what he means by that. I don't know if he knows yet. It's not a bad idea to build up a little bit more good credit since he wants to buy a new car once this one is paid off in October. I like getting out, but I hope if it means a trip to the mall we're not going all over creation because my legs aren't up to that right now.

I went to the club yesterday and sold the lunch tickets again (obviously no one else wants to do it) and had lunch myself. They made red beans and rice and it was excellent. It was a big meal for $1.75. It was a beautiful day, and I spent quite a while outside smoking and talking to other members. It's the most interaction I've had with other people in a long, long time. I really enjoyed it. Because of how I am when I'm stable, they have a hard time imagining what I'm like when I'm not. Most of the people who were out there were bipolar and also have/had alcohol abuse problems and that's what we talked about.

It is good for me to talk about stuff like that, but I have to find a line. I found some, let's just say "not good" feelings, surfacing afterwards. Part of that may have been related to the arguments that I had in the days prior with my husband, but it's happened before when I've allowed myself to dwell on that subject matter too deeply for too long and the results have not been good. All this **** is tied in a knot. When the feelings started creeping in, I excused myself and went inside, and started talking to someone about my cats. So 9 months sober, it's wonderful, let's move on to something else. Since about November I've been pretty successful at redirecting myself…

The weekends always go by fast and Wednesday will be here before I know it. I called the MA DMV this morning to make damned sure I have all the paperwork I need for my visit. I do. I've been getting it in order since then.

Since there is peace again, and I'm not worried I'm missing anything for my hearing at the DMV, I'll allow myself to really get excited now :)

I am happy there is peace again.
(((((HUGS))))
bizi

Yesterday was beautiful. Despite previous plans, we only got haircuts. That was a letdown.

I sacrificed beauty for utility again and left my hair long so I can put it up. I can't stand the sight of it down because I can't pull off long hair, but cutting it to where it would look decent would mean I would be forced to blow-dry and straighten it everyday. I have the time, but no desire to do that. I'm lazy :p

I had two folders of paperwork related to my DUI and I went through everything on Friday. I had a lot of **** in there I could just throw away, but other things just needed to be organized. I'm down to a single folder. I put together sets of the paperwork I need for each trip to the DMV and made two copies for my records. I feel better now that things are more organized and consolidated. It makes me feel like things are coming to a conclusion.

I am glad that you feel better now.
((((HUGS))))
bizi

you must feel relieved.
bobby

Prilosec and nexiuum have failed to help with my upper GI issues. My PCP has prescribed protonix. I'm going to pick it up from the pharmacy tomorrow. I read up on it. It has a lot of side effects, but hopefully I get lucky and get off easy. I hope it helps.

My morning computer time is also bonding time with Buddy. He gets up and down, but spends long periods of time curled up in my lap. He's starting to dig his claws into my thigh as he jumps up which means it's time to clip the cats' nails again… UGH… It's such a project…

I have to get Buddy first because if he sees me cutting Rocky or Dottie's nails he'll run and hide, and he's fast and so small he can hide anywhere. But Rocky can't see me clipping the other cats' claws either. I have to wait until he's passed out to cut his nails so he doesn't realize what I'm doing until I'm almost done or he'll fight me so hard I'll be lucky to cut any. Dottie doesn't care. She'd let me pick her up and cut her nails five times in a row.

I guess I'll do my own finger and toenails today, too. We may as well all get manicures. I wish I could polish my nails, but I can't because I have a slight tremor. I can't wait until I can drive myself to the nail salon to have someone do that for me…

Speaking of driving…
I'm finally going to the DMV tomorrow!!! I'm so excited!!! Things have been stagnant for so long, it's feels surreal. I've already put the paperwork I need together and checked it 100X, but I know I'm going to OCD it again today, tonight, and probably tomorrow morning, too.

Hopefully that specific restriction on my license is lifted tomorrow and we'll be visiting the insurance agent after the DMV. I'm worried about the cost of the policy. I have no idea how much it will be, but I know it will be very expensive, and I have to pay 20% of it down, so my imagination is going wild.

I'm still a little worried that something, somewhere will go wrong, but mainly I'm really excited because I'm in the home stretch. The final step in the process can happen pretty quickly after this, and I may have my license back very soon :):):)

oh kay I am so glad for you!!!!!!
I hear your excitement(albiet a bit anxious too).
hugs for you today.
maybe the protonix will be the magic pill?
bizi

Sending good thoughts for tomorrow. I will be looking forward to
reading your adventures tomorrow night.

Donna :hug::grouphug:

I went to the DMV yesterday… What a ****ing **** show!!! :eek:
When I realized how long it was going to take, I sent my husband (who planned on waiting in the car anyway) home and told him I'd call him to pick me up when I was done.

I waited over 3 1/2 hours (not including the 20 min wait for my husband to pick me up after) to hear that I should have gone to a hearings officer at the DMV earlier to tell them that the reason NH suspended my license was for a DUI… what a load of ****! There is nothing about that on the internet, and nobody told me about that any of the 100X I called the DMV. The hearings officer wasn't interested in my driving record, or any of the other paperwork I was told I needed… only the 30 day letter…

She said that I should have taken the 30 day letter to my insurance agent immediately to get the process of getting a policy started because it takes weeks, but I had waited because my husband gave notice he wanted to take the day off. I thought I couldn't start the insurance part until I went to the DMV (because that is what the NH DMV told me), and thought I still had plenty of time to get what I need to do done.

The hearings officer said that I should request a new 30 day letter (with a new start date) to give me time to get a "MA sr-22 binder[/U]" and take those two documents back to the DMV, pay $500, and get my license back in my home state of MA without having to wait to be cleared in NH which requires "sr-22 insurance." I just wouldn't be able to drive in NH until they clear me. But it's not that easy…

I went to my insurance agent. There is NO sr-22 insurance in MA. It's a NH thing. And there is no such insurance binder… WTF!!! The ladies in the office had no idea what the hearings officer was talking about. They said she "didn't have her lingo down," which doesn't help me at all, and there's no way to go back and ask questions now. Big letdown.

As far as insurance, I can keep my current carrier, but I don't know how much it's going to increase yet. Because I'm not writing a new policy, I didn't have to put 20% down (at least I didn't have to yesterday). The insurance company is going to send me a letter explaining the entire process (thank God), which should take about 23 days, an oddly specific number, but whatever.

When my husband came to pick me up and I told him what happened he hit the ****ing ROOF. He railed because he took the day off for nothing… said all he did was sit on his *** all day and watch TV (which IMHO doesn't sound so bad)… even though apparently I would have had to take this trip to the DMV to notify them I got a DUI in NH no matter what. He was furious at the DMV, angry about another fine, and ****** at me because I don't know what I'm doing. The main problem is I didn't hire a lawyer to guide me through the process. The fact that my DUI was out of state doesn't help matters either… it's very confusing, comes without directions, and with plenty of misdirection.

So I'm on my own now. He won't be driving me to the DMV the next time. I will be taking a cab. I don't consider this to be an entirely bad thing. It will be expensive, but I won't have to wait for him to take a day off, and I won't have to beg for the favor (major plus).

I'm looking forward to receiving the letter from my insurance carrier explaining what's going to happen. Unless the letter clearly explains what MA wants as far as proof of insurance, I'm going to wait until I get my clearance letter from the State of NH until I return to the DMV again to get my license back. It makes sense to do it all at once… if I can. It looks like I'll be waiting about another month now.

To say yesterday was a disappointment is an understatement. I didn't cry, but it was close. I think I was too confused.