Dear Mrs. Bear,
My first thoughts are to believe him when he says he needs to be committed.
Trust him.
The hospital might even evaluate him and let him go -- or just put him on a short hold (do they do that with kids under 18?).

Then I think that you have been through similiar situations with him before and know him better than I do. At the very least, call his pdoc and let him know what Wes did last night and what he is saying.


I'm sorry that you and your family are going through this.
I'm happy that he is talking to you. That is great.
Sending hope.

Mari

I do believe him. I just don't want to believe him. I know that makes no sense.

Plus.... I want to get him out of town this weekend. I want to take him out to the desert to see his family. They will be just as helpful as the tdoc and the pdoc and help keep him safe.

There is nothing for him to get into to hurt himself out there and he will be able to be distracted by helping others for 2 days.

We are seeing the pdoc tomorrow. I've got the t-doc and the pdoc's cell phone numbers so we are always in touch.

If this weekend doesn't help turn him around, then Wes and I both aggree to the hospital. We both want to try and wait it out. He feels safe with my husband who is going above and beyond his duty. But we've all aggreed that if he gets disassociative again, he's going to the hospital no matter what.

Which is why I put him there the first time last year. It's too much for me alone and it's not fair to his brother.

THis sounds like a good plan Bear.
What a great family you have.
((((HUGS))))
bizi

Dear Mrs. Bear,
I hope that the desert weekend is going well for Wes and for you.
Mari

Mrs Bear -Sending lots of hugs thinking of you too.

Sending prayers too.



Hugs, Nikko

It worked. He was so stable all weekend. We all worked out butts off, but he said he needed it.

He wants to spend the rest of the summer there. We will see. If they can put him to work in the alfalpha fields, he could stay there. If he were just sitting around, it wouldn't be as good for him. You can just see the stress and worry roll off him when we are there. It just all goes away for him.

I don't know how I feel about him being 4 hours away from me, but it's time to let him make his own decisions.

Gotta work. I wish the world would stop so I can catch up. LOL. O well.

This is wonderful that he was stable.
I am sure he will make the decision....it would be scarey having him 4 hours away...but....
You have been and always will be his mama bear...and just want to make sure he is alright...that is what most mothers want for their children.
Sounds like a relaxing place to be....
take care my dear.
hoping that the merri-go-round stops soon for you...you need a break...any vacation coming up in the near future?
((((HUGS))))
bizi

Hi Mrs Bear

I hpoe you dont mind me commenting on your dilema!

I'm now 43 years old and for many many years suffered what the doctors was just depression. My earliest thought of suicide was 13 years old and looking back it wasn't a serrious attempt just a SCREAM of adolescent anguish. At 16 i joined the Royal Navy [ i'm English by the way] that was when my illness realy took hold of me. I left shortly after the Falklands war in 1983. Relationships were my hardest endevour. I could love but never be loved, something of a vicous circle, I hated my own company yet sought to issolate myself. Over the years and with the help of my wife of 18 years i have now reached a stage were i know what is wrong with me, and God willing the contstant thought of Suicide has now been put to rest. 15 years ago i cut my wrist so badly i nearly severed my hand. If only then a Doctor had diagnosed BP my life would have changed then.

Your sons life is valuable to you and to him. Insist he is seen by a Doctor who can explain this dreadful pain and anguish he feels is real, and that without medical help the consequenses of his actions will remain with him for life. I have pins and needles in my left hand and will have them forever. Medication is not always the sole answer, yes since October last year i have been on Medication and i'm feeling 100% but talking is a great help and Exercise is a fantastic cure for stress.

With a Mother like you your Son will survive, BUT HE NEEDS TO KNOW THAT Death is not the answer Life IS........

Take Care

I would consider seeing if there is someway for him to work up there at least part of the week. It sounds like it might be a good situation for him.

I know one of the best things for my oldest son was to be at a place he could work for a while close to that age.

Donna

Dear bear,

Neurontin, (Gabapentin), is a med that has had significant effect on bipolars that I know who have major issues with anxiety and depression. While some sing its praises, others found it ineffective or actually tilting them towards mania.

I'll bet that you are already aware of it. Just mentioning it in case it slipped under your radar.