[Dmom3005]

Sounds like a good idea to text and ask.

Donna

[bizi]

Well I hope you had a nice visit....and that he was well behaved.
hoping that you are ok about the visit.
bizi

[OhKay]

We had a very nice visit
Lots of good conversation, and it was as if nothing had ever happened. He is very easy going.
My father-in-law was impressed with my new coffee machine and was excited and impressed by the iced coffee I made for him (it does taste better than what you get at the drive through). He loves tech, and usually ends up getting whatever my husband has, so I bet he'll be buying one of his own when he returns to Florida. He buys a lot of iced coffees and would end up saving a lot of money, and he likes saving money
He stayed away from taboo issues, at least in front of me.

My husband's vacation starts when he gets home from work today. He'll be off until the 11th. He needs a vacation and I'm looking forward to spending more time with him. We usually go away because the 9th is his birthday, the 10th is our anniversary, and my birthday is the 11th. Last year I was in no shape to go anywhere, and this year we can't afford to go away. We don't usually vacation the week of the 4th, and his mother expects him to go over for the holiday, and show up at some point to celebrate his birthday, too. They've also been expecting him to do a lot of yard work and handyman tasks lately as well. I asked him last night if he'd be spending a lot of time over there in the upcoming week…
He told me he had already decided that if he was going over there, he was bringing me because, "this has gone on long enough, and we have to break the ice at some point." I think my father-in-law had a talk with him. My husband walked him in and out of the apartment and they were gone for a while both times.

Apparently my husband's mother wants to see me, but my he doesn't know how his sister or step father feel because he simply hasn't talked to either of them about it in a long time. His plan is just to show up with me. I told him I wasn't comfortable with that. He has had a long time to work this out…. he can take 5 minutes to make a phone call to ask if it's okay for me to come. A surprise visit isn't fair to anyone, including me.

I'm not even going to go over the list of **** I had to get done to get the apartment visitor-ready (to my satisfaction) yesterday, but I had at least 7 cups of coffee to help push through it and bypass my nap. I was exhausted, but I has trouble sleeping last night (rare) because I was worrying about dealing with my husband's family again, and worrying that it will probably be under less than desirable circumstances because my husband probably won't handle things well beforehand. My anxiety is going up again. It was sky high this morning. But I'm going to have to deal with this **** eventually. Maybe I'll feel better afterwards?

I didn't get nearly enough sleep to make up for all of yesterday's activity. When I push it too much my MS acts up, and it's not just the fatigue. I should do some food shopping this morning, since later today and tomorrow the supermarket will be a horror show because of the upcoming holiday. I just need to motivate myself. I will reward myself with an early nap if I get the grocery shopping over with by noon (that's being pretty generous). I'm sure I will need at least 1/2mg of klonopin to quiet my mind before I lay down, but I need the rest, and I'm sure it will be a long nap.

[bizi]

happy about your visit!
yes you need a nap, I think the 7 cups of coffee probably interferred with your sleep last night unfortunately.
I hope you get in a good nap today!
Good luck shopping, be careful.
(((((HUGS)))))
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[OhKay]

Coffee, no matter how much, usually doesn't interfere with my sleep. If I'm really tired, I can go back to sleep in the am after 5-6 cups no problem. I think it was anxiety because my mind wouldn't shut off. My anxiety isn't quite as bad this morning, but it's still "not good."

I did end up going to the butcher shop, to buy lottery tickets, and food shopping, but I shouldn't have been out because I was a little out of it. The supermarket was a horror show by the time I got there. The lines were unbelievably long! I skipped my nap because I watched the news for a while and it got late. Then I thought if I laid down it would end up being a marathon nap.

I'm going to the local ice cream shop to order our traditional anniversary/birthdays cake today. It will be much better than the ones I have bought from the freezer case at the supermarket in the past. We will work on it for a while.

I'm going to enjoy some things that I will not be having for a while because of the diet. Somethings I may not be eating at all again if I decided to follow through to stage 3. Hopefully I don't gain a bunch of weight before the diet because of that lol.
My husband told me last night he wants to do a less rigid version of the diet with me to make things easier to manage… minus the alcohol restriction of course. I think he is interested in losing some weight, too.

[bizi]

I will wish you happy birthday and happy anniversary since I don't know the dates.
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[OhKay]

Thank you Bizi!

My husband's birthday is the 9th, our anniversary is the 10th, and my birthday is the 11th. I ordered the ice cream cake yesterday… all chocolate ice cream per my husband's request. I'm going to pick it up tomorrow.

My husband said he isn't going to his mother's today, which is surprising. I find it hard to believe she didn't ask him to, but that's what I was told. He had told me if he was going over there, he was taking me. Maybe he asked and it didn't go over well, or maybe he just declined the invitation because he didn't want to deal with it. IDK…
I'm sure at the very least his mother will want to see him next weekend because of his birthday though. I don't know how that mess will work out. Honestly, I'd rather not go.
He is having breakfast with his father, and possibly his sister, this morning and I wasn't invited, so obviously he still hasn't had a discussion with his sister about me yet. I just kissed him goodbye and didn't say a word about it.

I made a point of asking him if he would be home for lunch because I had to pull hamburger out of the freezer. He said he was only going out for breakfast. We'll see… I have a feeling he may end up at his mother's after all.

I think because of the holiday the laundry room will be empty, so maybe I'll get a couple of loads done.

[bizi]

(((((HUGS)))))
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[OhKay]

My husband came home after breakfast (his sister didn't end up going) and didn't go to his mother's, so I was happy. He had a rather late breakfast so was too full for lunch though.

I didn't do laundry. I can save that for later in the week.

My husband has a physical today required by the Department of Transportation because he has to renew some of his licenses for work. He's been up since 5am and feels like ****. He wants to reschedule, but if he misses the deadline (his birthday the 9th), he won't be licensed for x period of time, and will have to sit for exams to get the licenses reinstated. So I told him I'm not even going to try to call and move the appointment- he will have to suck it up. For some reason I'm going with him.

I have a number of errands to get done after that. They should keep me busy for a while. I filled my pill minder last night and was shocked I don't need to refill anything until Saturday… happy not to have to deal with the pharmacy until then. I have to pick up some bread, etc so I'm going to try to see if my local supermarket has stevia while I'm out and about. I put off ordering it online and I don't think it will be here before I start my diet if I order it now.

[bizi]

I hope you have a nice day.
(((((HUGS))))
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