Thanks Donna,

Good idea.

befuddled2

Hi BF - you missed your calling, you should of been a nurse, you are so caring and supportive. You are much stronger than you think.

Just remember to get some rest yourself.

I think it's wonderful about the wheelchair/scooter, he is comical as far as saying he will pull you around, that's good, he hasn't lost his sense of humor.

I agree with DMom on the stepson situation too, I think it will ease the tension under these most difficult situations for all.

Do you have or had any pictures of you and Doug taken? It would be nice for you to have one.

I know you say you don't think Doug has much time left, but remember the morphine can also give a person to think that. Since morphine is strong and when taking it, the person seems out of it.

Take care of each other:hug: . Hugs, Nikko

Thank you Nikko,

I watched the movie, Bruce Almighty, over at Doug's house tonight with him. He had fell asleep with his legs on my lap and everytime I'd move or move his legs he'd ask me if I was alright. He didn't want me to leave. Without thinking before leaving his house I put my arm around him and hugged him. He reach his arm around me and hugged me and told me he'd see me tomorrow.

I don't have any pictures of Doug and me both but should get one taken of us together. The morphine does have him looking rather out of it.

And Donna, I did have a talk with Doug's step-son today a little and he did seem very receptive to me after that. Thank you.

befuddled2

Dear Befuddled,
This thread is hard for me to see.
So I just pop in once in a while and tell you that I am sending good thoughts your way.


M.

Thank you for your good thoughts Mari.

befuddled2

I said it could be the most beautiful time and it sounds like love is flowing.
Now I am afraid you are going to wear yourself out. What if you got yourself some nice bubble bath or something and treat yourself.
If I could cry, tears would come to my eyes. YOU ARE MAKING SUCH A DIFFERENCE TO HIS QUALITY OF LIFE. SUCH A HUGE DIFFERENCE. IT IS SO INSPIRING. you have to take care of yourself too....you have to pamper yourself in whatever way you can. Even though this is a very painful thread for me, I think this is the best thread. You are an angel.
Bobby

I pictured what you wrote about when you and Doug were watching a movie, and it was very touching and romantic. I wish I could of taken a picture.:)

Special moments in time.;) to treasure.:hug:

You are giving him so much strength and compassion.

Thinking of you both always.......

Lots of Hugs, Nikko:hug:

Hi Bobby and Nikko,

Thank you both.

Bobby, I feel it too. I am hitting the sack very soon.

Nikko, my brother will try to get a movie of us. Doug wants for me to talk about us meeting and such in the movie.

A few days ago Doug hugged me back when I hugged him goodbye and tonight I rested my head on his shoulder briefly and he did the same on my shoulder with his head. He is scared of dying while he's asleep so he fights sleep. At least that's what his step-son told me. Tonight I massaged his legs and feet until he fell asleep but he woke up when I moved his feet off my lap. I told him it was okay for him to go to sleep and that I was going home and he said okay. He closed his eyes and looked like he was going to sleep. His lights are off so he must be sleeping.

The 3 of us will try to take a bus to West Virginia horse track to play the slots in the casino there. We called up about it today. Doug is getting really excited about going and so am I. I had always wanted to go to celebrate my 1,000 days of not smoking but never had anyone to go with. My 1,000 days won't come till September so it will be an early reward.

Last night Doug massaged my legs becasue mine were hurting. Last night was a story in itself that I may have to tell one night soon.

befuddled2

I didn't see this before I posted the please check in.

Sounds like you both are soooooooooooo happy to be together.:)

Wow, more plans......casino sounds like fun.:)

When is the country fair?

Hugs, Nikko:hug:

Hi Nikko,

I'm not sure that Doug will be in good enough shape for the county fair. They are talking about PT as he can barely walk. I didn't see him all day yesterday as he was sleeping all day. I'm exhausted and will go to bed now.

befuddled2