Thank you Mrs. Bear.

I just heard Doug tell his Aunt that he has about a month left to live. I'm numb because I thought I had more time with him.

befuddled2

most people say be strong..I just say be you....
hugs
Bobby

I just want sleep to come. I have taken my meds so hopefully it will come soon. I wish I had some of that booze that Nikko had the other night. I feel so all alone and afraid. I miss Doug already.

befuddled2

((((((Barbara)))))),

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I know you feel alone and afraid and scared. Please, Barbara, allow yourself to FEEL these emotions. Don't try to block them with booze. It won't help. They'll just come back later and hurt more.

Talk to him as much as you can. If you don't already have a book started with your writings and your thoughts about your life with him, see if you can get one. This will help you later on. It'll help remember the good things and the laughter.

It doesn't matter if you don't sleep. Put on some soft, quiet music and allow your mind and your body to feel. Get yourself a teddy bear or trade pillows with Doug. Barbara, you're surrounded by people that care about you and that love you. Allow yourself to feel that.

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We're all here for you. Hang on tight. Hugs.

Barb

I know/hope that you are sleeping tonight barbara...you deserve to get a good nights sleep.
I read before that you said he could hardly walk.
Who is helping him with transfers to the bathroom etc.
Is he using a wheel chair? He may need to be moved somewhere else to be properly cared for....it doesn't sound like this boy is taking care of him.
That is jsut awful that he was locked in his home....awful.
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bizi

Please keep posting, you are going through so much.

I hope Adult Protective Services are able to help ASAP.

Maybe there is something to put on the cat for fleas. Yet if they are in the house, that would take some work to get ride of them.

Get rest, drinking will only depress you more and then you feel crappy.

Being locked in the house is so wrong, APS will take care of that.

Is his son/roommate his caregiver? It doesn't matter, it's abuse to Doug.

Hang in there.

Lots of Love and Hugs, Nikko:hug:

It sounds as if you are already starting the mourning process....do you have faith? for me, only time heals the pain....I have been wondering if there are any mourning groups in your area. I am sending you a ton of hugs. I hope you can feel the warmth.
Bobby

Thank you everyone. Today when I saw Doug he seemed more alert although he cannot feel his feet. I cannot really call Adult Protective services because it would be my word against his roommate. That would only cause a stink and besides, he'll be getting someone in soon 24/7 from what I hear. The hospice is not even giving him anything for nausea and Doug cannot hold down anything. These darn people know all this but then what do they care?

befuddled2

Adult Protective Services CANNOT tell the person like Doug or his roommate, when, or who reported the situation. I know that for a fact from when I called for my mom.

She figured it was from being brought to the ER. intoxicated and saying all things.

Because, if they could then people would get angry with each other and all. So everything is confidential between the person that called APS and APS, I am sure you could call anonymously too. I bet people do that all time if they don't want to get involved.

Just wanted to let you know.

Good Luck, hang in there.

Sending lots of good vibes, smiles, angels and hugs, Nikko

Befuddled

You need to call APS they need to get the young man out of his house for his own sake now. SO that he can be well taken care of.

And so that the house can be made flea be gone. And cleaned up and
made safe for Doug and stuff.

So please call, they can also call and have someone come and make sure
everything is being done that can be done.

You can then when they are there come and offer to help.

Donna