Dear BArbara,
I hope you sleep well tonight.
know that you are fufilling a larger picture in caring for him.
You are a blessing to him.
((((HUGS))))
bizi

Thank you Bizi.

I have been doing a lot of thinking this morning. I plan to call Doug's aunt today as Doug's roommate who Doug calls his step-son, has really been treating Doug inhuman in my opionion. Last night Doug's roommate said he's not Doug's babysittter and last night he locked Doug in the house and left saying it was okay because Doug was passed out. I really need strenght today.

befuddled2

OH NO.....that's terrible. How cruel his step-son/room mate, is being. I can relate to having to care for someone, live with them, like me and my mom, but to do what his step-son is saying or doing is damn right wrong. If he is frustrated that is not the way to deal with it, since Doug is so ill, it's make it all the worse.

Doug is so lucky to have you. Is his room mate keeping you from seeing Doug?

I would call Doug's Aunt today too, so she is aware of what is happening.

Sweety, God will give you the strength you need today, to do what you need to do. Hang in there and don't take any crap from his rrom mate/step-son, stick to your guns for Doug's sake and your sanity.

I hope you get to see Doug today, no matter what his room mate says. He could be reported for cruelty.

Sending prayers and wishing the best for everyone involved.

Lots of hugs, Nikko:hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:

Thank Nikko,

I could not sleep last night and earlier called the American Cancer Society for advice. I could call adult protective services which may be my best bet but then they don't open till Monday. I barely see Doug at all these days. At least since his roommate found out I ratted on him for getting drunk when he fell off the toilet and ended up in emergency room. Doug's roommate never seemed to like me very much anyway.

befuddled2

Who got drunk and fell off the toilet? His room mate ended up in the ER? I'm confused here, I thought Doug ended up in the ER, or last I remember you didn't know what happened when you didn't hear from Doug, and you thought he ended up in the ER.

Adult protective services is a good place to start, they may be someone available on the weekends, I would check that out. There must be a hot line or something.

What did the American Cancer Society say?

I hope you get to see Doug today, make a point of it, no matter what his room mate says.

Good Luck, Hugs, Nikko:hug:

Hi Nikko,

Doug called his hospice nurse and she'll be calling him. I was over there when he called them. Doug has fleas so I do not want to stay long. Doug must have had a pretty nasty fall. I got him a slurpie. Doug hasn't been to the hospital all week. when I didn't see him all day that day he was holed up in his apartment all that time. Doug's roommate went by rescue squad to the ER this past Monday for falling off the toilet. I really think that now it's in his nurses hands.

befuddled2

((((((Barbara)))))),

Who the heck is this roomate/step-son?? I thought he was a relative?? Ex-wife's kid??

Is there a dog or a cat or something livng there too?? Where the heck are the fleas coming from??

Doug's being locked in the house and prevented from seeing anyone that can help him??

I think Nikko's right, you need to call the emergency number for protective services.

BIg HUGS. Stay strong.

Barb :hug:

first you have to take care of yourself first....this has really gotten so complicated and heart breaking...I agree with the others that you definitely need to call protective services. It is as if you have been put in a position to be Doug's guardian angel. Your posts sound so calm that I am really worried about you. This is too much stress. I also don't know if humans can catch fleas. I haven't heard of that one.
please please take care of yourself and keep us informed....
you are an angel
Bobby

I think the fleas are coming from the grass in the yards because everytime I walk outside is when the fleas bite me and not while inside Doug's house. He does have a housebound cat. His roommate is just an ex-girlfriend's son of Doug's but no relation to Doug. Doug's had the boy for the past 8 years so he thinks of him as a step-son. The boy's mom is an alchololic and had broken the boys fingers once so Doug took the boy to live with him at the boy's request. I need to document things before I call. Doug is okay now, just tore up from the fall the day before last. I'm afraid if I make too much fuss they will put him in a nursing home and that would kill him quicker.

befuddled2

:hug:

Please make sure you are taking care of your self first.

You are so kind and loving and giving.