Bobby

You need to keep working with talking to her. She sounds like she
needs someone to talk to. And you need someone to care about right
now. This is a good thing for you to be doing.

I'm so proud of you. You are putting her needs before yours right
now if you ask me.

Donna :hug::grouphug:

This is really weird after I wrote the post about "purpose" I got your posts this morning and the phone call from my friend this morning and now I just got this email from my best friend Alice
I really enjoyed my birthday dinner!!


I don't remember exactly what prompted me to make a point of commenting
on how important you have been to Suri during her illness. I'm sure I've
said more than once that I believe helping other creatures (human and
non-human) more than justifies our existence and I think my comment was
in that kind of context.


And I added but will reiterate that I've always found you to be
empathetic and insightful, especially when I'm going through a difficult
time.


Love,
Alice

I gained almost ten pounds during my depression.

Bobby

See sometimes our purpose is that we listen to others, do for or
with others. I think you have found a purpose for yourself right now.

I think in some ways many of your friends depend on you to help
them with things, or just listen and you don't realize it.
Because you think they are just helping you.

For one thing I'm sure even though you think Robert just helps you,
I'm sure he really appreciates the time you spend listening to him,
and taking the time to pay attention to his dog(can't remember the name),
and having the bones is it for him. And the other little things you do.

Cecelia, enjoys the time you spend with her. The fact you can come over.
Spend some time giving her dog some extra loving. Yes, I really do mean
that. I know I love it when Layla, and others come and spend time with
my two dogs (Jake and Nipper) and two cats(christina and Angel) and make
a big deal about them. It makes me happier because its not just me
and my kids. Its everyone that comes in the house. Especially with Jake
because he was a rescue animal, and he has come so far, with others now
he goes to the door and to the chair they sit in and wants attention. It brings
a big smile to my face.

So I'm thinking your doing a lot of listening and just don't realize it.

I also know you listen to us here. And even if we don't say so. We all appreciate you.

Donna :hug::grouphug:

thank you Donna. Yesterday I listened to my reunited friend and her vent about her doctor for fifteen minutes and thought of you! Then when I got Alice's email I was blown away.Then I listen a lot to Marcia, my aide and the stories she tells about her elderly clients and the emergencies she deals with. When I was a psychologist I was a very good listener and gave unconditional love to the kids I saw. It worked. Now if I can figure out how to stop eating.
thank you again.
fondly
bobby

I hear you with the weight gain bobby. ((((HUGS))))
bizi I see dr. orazio my pdoc tomorrow morning...not looking forward to that.
bizi

I think when it comes to both of you on weight loss.

Maybe you both need to remember that it comes in
time. Just one day at a time.

Just take it time and work one day at a time. right now.

First, give it today. What are you going to do today.
About not eating to much. Say give yourself some
down time with this.

And start it next week. Maybe let your self splurge this week
Bobby. Then start it slow next week.

And remember to start your bike too. Just get going with it.

Donna :hug::grouphug:

I have been doing well monday thru thursday

then blow it on the weekends.
bizi

Actually I think we are all good listeners.
When ever you read/like a post you are in fact listening to what that person has to say.so this is an interesting way to look at the likes button.
bizi
thanks for listening bobby!
bizi

I think you're a fantastic lady, Bobby. You have a beautiful heart and share it with your friends. The girls are right in that you are a good listener, and a good friend, and that is a wonderful purpose to have in life :hug::hug::hug: