Stay warm, Donna.


:hug::hug::hug:

I'm so sorry about the pain you were having Donna. I'm glad they didn't find any clear reason for it at the time, and I hope it doesn't come back like that again :hug::hug::hug:

I hope the weather is good today so you can get Derrick his money.

THe winter has been a cold one for you guys.
(((((warm hugs))))
bizi

Yes, it sure has. My husband got my car door unfrozen last night.

So I could get to town this afternoon. He got his money, and a
couple new pairs of good pants, and shirts. And then 3 pairs
of jeans. We had pizza for lunch it was good.

Then we went to the Valentines dance and he danced a lot.

He always loves to dance. Sorry, The pictures are on my
phone and I can't get them off the phone to the computer
on here. If you can see my facebook, there on there.

With his friend Grace.

Donna :hug::grouphug:

I am glad he has a friend named grace.:)

What a great day for Derrick!!! :)

Do you think you spoil him a little? ;)

How very nice!

Yes Kay

I probably spoil all my boys at times in different ways.

I try to do different things for each. The one that doesn't get
spoiled directly is Devin, but I do things like take Meluvja out
and buy her lunch and things in stead. Because she doesn't
always have money of her own. But I remember those kind
of days. Dan well I do different things again for him.

Derrick I just do what he seems to need. SO its easiest to
do what I love to for them all with him.

He also spoils me.

Donna

I think you spoil everyone, but spare yourself Donna :hug:

Maybe, Ive been trying to spoil myself more by staying
in my nice bed more or longer in the mornings.

But its fine. I'm having a good time. Like right now
the weather is supposed to get really windy and that
isn't for me. So I'm going to stay in. And I'll enjoy my
inside time. I am not taking my granddaughter to Indy
to the doctor tomorrow, because of the weather forecast
for winds in the 20s to 40s. We decided that the highway
gets really bad, and its not something we want to be on.

So she is going to reschedule. Lets hope on Wednesday the
snow on Tuesday night doesn't happen to much so I can't get
out too.

Donna :hug::grouphug:

YOu are one hardy gal!
bizi

Sending you some good weather, Donna, so you get things done.

Stay safe.

I'm glad that you are enjoying sleeping in, and are taking care of yourself by not going out when the weather is bad :)

What do you like to do with your "inside time"?

I just cancelled my doctor appointment for tomorrow. Because
its supposed to get 20 to 45 mile an hour winds this afternoon,
plus snow this afternoon early. Well it started early or so I was
thinking its been snowing since about 11:30 or so. Wow, not
what I wanted to see.

All the county schools out my way and most if not all my rural counties
are out today for what we call an e-learning day. SO all the kids
are home. Probably either a 2 hour delay or closed again tomorrow.

This has been a no fun type winter for sure. I'm ready to be able to get
out. The way this weather is going I'm going to have to ask Dale
to get Derrick some money this week. Because I'm not going to be
able to get to town to give him any. Ugh, no fun either.
But life out here.

Maybe next week I can do something.

I like to read when I have books. But that is about all I do.

And watch tv now that I have Roku.
Donna :hug::grouphug:

I'm sorry you have had such a tough winter :hug::hug::hug:
I would be stuck at home a lot, too.

I thought New England was bad... we've had a lot of cold temps and wind, but we haven't gotten much snow this year (knock on wood).

I hope the weather improves soon so you can get out of the house and don't go stir crazy :hug::hug::hug:

I got out today to the bank, dollar general and that was it about 10 or
15 minutes.

So I at least got some things done.

We will see what the rest of the week brings.

Donna :grouphug::hug:

I hope it brings you good weather!!! :)

Me too, I think its going to bring more snow in the end.

But that is life right. I am sure hoping that groundhog
was right and we see spring soon. But I'm not holding
out hope anytime soon. Heehee,

But I'm hoping to go to a case conference tomorrow we
will see, its to be cloudy which usually means foggy.

Donna :hug::grouphug::grouphug:

be careful on the roads, fog can be dangerous!
bizi

Yes, Bizi

Luckily it wasn't foggy this morning. And I felt a lot better.

I had a good morning and my parent/ student got a great report.
THis is one of the ones I love going to. Because this is one
of the ones that he is having to get good days to get out of this
classroom, into a regular classroom. And its taken him a lot
of work to show he can do this. He is just about all the way
out. I'm not sure he will ever be able to do Reading or language
arts, same thing in regular classroom completely but that is okay.

Just getting all the other classes and lunch, recess, and specials all
out is great. He is just about out in lunch with his classmates now.
THey wanted to know today if we thought lunch all the time was good
idea. I could tell mom wasn't sure. So I suggested that since they
have one day right now. They add another or two. ANd then at
the beginning of April after spring break either add both more or
try one more and then the other. So he can see if its too much
one day at a time.

Mom seemed relieved for the thought.

Donna

you are so good at what you do donna!
(((((HUGS)))))
bizi

Yes, you are so good at what you do! :)

It must make you so happy and be so rewarding to see one of your kids make strides like that :hug::hug::hug:

Yes, it sure does.

And I got word that another that will be hopefully graduating next
year is doing really well too. So it really made my day too.

Donna :hug::grouphug:

I bet you're looking forward to having your partner in crime with you this weekend! :):):)

I guess I missed this somewhere.
I hope you continue having good reports of your students.
((((HUGS))))
bizi

Kay And everyone

My Partner in crime (Derrick) came home with me last night. Unexpectedly
it seems the newest provider thought it was perfectly okay to drop Derrick
off at the wrong building and just leave him at an unopen building at Purdue.
i got a call at 7:00pm, of course it was pitch black out. i was at a meeting
on the other side of town in Lafayette he was in West Lafayette at Purdue.
No clue where he was. My first comment was, tell me were you are I'll
come get you. His next back I have no clue, with an hysterical kid, and
I'm trying to calm him down from the hyperventilating. I get him somewhat
calmed down. Tell him to walk to the first open building, knowing it might
be a while, because some if not a lot are locked. And I tell him I'm going to get off the phone with him so I can figure out what to do to figure out were he is or what to do. So I go towards, the ladies at the desk, who are asking me what is wrong. I'm shaking and upset. So they kind of take over after I tell them the problem. And my thought. I have just called my friend Shannon, and his old provider, I can't find the on call number, and say to her give me the on call, she says Grace just called Derrick isn't at best buddies. I said, I know I can't explain right this second I need to figure out what to do. She says we don't call on call. I'll call Aubrey, I couldn't find her number. Well I say, Derrick is lost at Purdue, explain a little more. But she says were at, I said, he has no clue were. I think I'm calling the Purdue Police. I don't know how else to find him. I just told him to find a open building. She and I get off phone. The ladies are looking at me, I said do you know how to find Purdue's police number, they look it up. But then they call it for me. I can't even talk. Then the other one tries calling Derrick back, she knew he was so upset. The other one has my phone calling the police. So we get it established I'll call him back and tell him the police will be calling him to tell him they are looking for him. And they will get him. So they do, and take him to the location his access bus is picking him up later. And his friend is there waiting. And she is riding back with him at least. That was only reason I was willing to wait on him at home. So he is here all weekend. We are maybe going to meet his behavior therapist so he can talk it out tomorrow. But that is because he needs to de-stress it. So that was my excitement.
I've never had to ask the police to find my son. he said, they had blocked the roads off to find him. Thats fine they found him.
Donna

how awful!
bobby

OMG Donna, that's terrible! :hug::hug::hug:

Both of you must have been absolutely frantic! I'm so glad that those ladies were there to help you. I feel so badly that Derrick was there lost and alone :hug::hug::hug:

I'm glad that Derrick came home to you last night. I hope that being there made him feel safe and better. How are the two of you doing today?

I'm tired and I think he probably even though he thinks he slept
good is too. I got about 2 1/2 hours sleep so I know why I am.

We got a call alittle while ago to do the incident report. So he
was upset for a while. And I was worried about what might
happen, but I think it will get better now. He did a good job
telling the lady what had happened. I'm glad he and I had talked
about whether he really wanted to work with this guy again or
not. Because I wasn't sure I wanted him too. And he thought about
it and had decided no he didn't. What if he had run out of gas, out
in a different area, and they had to wait on someone else to get to
them. Or even the guy had walked away. So the lady at the end
said, that he wouldn't be working with Derrick again. So we kind
of both looked at each other. And I told her that was good because
we had already made that decision. And would she make sure that
his person that was in charge knew because he was scheduled for
tomorrow and I didn't want him just showing up and no one there.

So its been handled twice. So now to wait on the report, and to
see if he gets turned into Adult protective services. And I'm also
guessing that he might get terminated from the company. But
that we may not know.

Donna :hug::grouphug:

OMG!!!
What a nitemere!
I am glad that he was found safely. I am trying to understand how you must have felt. I am not a mother so I have no way of knowing the terror that you felt other than what you wrote to us..
I am glad that it is resolved for the time being.
hugs to you both tonight.
(((((HUGS)))))
bizi

I can't believe that they even asked you if Derrick wanted to work with that guy again or not. At a minimum, he should be fired because of what Derrick (and you) went through :mad:

I hope now that Derrick has already dealt with the incident report, he won't have to relive the experience anymore, and can heal :hug::hug::hug:

And I hope that the next person he gets is wonderful. He deserves that. And I don't want you to have to worry about anything like that happening again :hug::hug::hug:

I personally Am not worried about if he works with others.

And honestly they didn't give us a choice as to whether
he worked with Derrick again. It was taken out of our
hands. It just originally sounded like they were thinking
he would.

So it was fine that they told us that.

Derrick is dealing with the issues. But he is still really
stressed and upset but that is fine. He is safe and knows
it. We will deal with it. The team of experts he has other
than the person that technically assigned this person has
all responded to me about this. And talked to us. So we
will see what happens.

I think its odd that i still get very little response from her.

I am not sure how or who we will get next but we will do more.

Donna :hug::grouphug:

Donna,

You are a great mom.
:)

!00% Agreed :)

Thanks ladies for the votes of Confidence.

I've been sending some really interesting emails the last few
days. I've sent them to the whole team of people that deal
with Derrick. Yesterday I started sending them were they
had to mark them as received and read.

I have one person the mainly most important at his provider place
that was refusing to talk to me for a while. I was getting a little
irritated before. But when I hadn't heard from her on Wednesday,
then Thursday. I decided when I started sending on Thursday,
I would just start requesting a read receipt, and send to her supervisor,
and the supervisor of the work person, this particular supervisor used to
get Derrick's things a lot anyway so I knew his person wouldn't think
I was targetting her, but I even went as far as to let her know I was sending
just to make it not look like I was singling out the other person. It had
nothing to do with her work.
Any way I heard nothing again yesterday from her, and it was irritating me.
But then last night, I decided after hearing Derrick say that he didn't trust at this point anyone, but his old person who has no hours there, and her twin sister who has a few. And has offered to do his hours. So I sent the email to the whole group again. And her immediate supervisor was included this time. this morning her immediate superviser was the name that popped out at me when I opened my emails. It was a I am sorry he had the Purdue experience I had read the incident report. And I will let Shawnon do his hours. If she will do them. THen I find the other girl his person in charge. WHo has no one. But has answered finally after weeks of asking all my questions.
As because Derrick has already big eye smiles asked me to thank Paula the other supervisor I forward her email, letting the whole team know she has okayed the hours. And this is what Derrick wants. And its what I expect.

And then I send Paula a very nice, email from Derrick and I telling her how
I was so happy to read him her email. but the best part was to see for the first time, the big bright eyes and smile in them from her words.
And she responded back right away. With very nice words about me.

Wow, it was the best thing that could happen for me today. I really love this lady. She tells me she hopes to meet me one day. Not remembering we have meet a few years ago when I set them up for Will.

Donna:hug::grouphug:

This is awesome!
I am glad things are working out.
((((HUGS))))
bizi

So happy to hear that you and Derrick are feeling better about things.



M

You are just a tireless advocate for Derrick. He's so lucky to have you for a mom. I'm so happy that after all the work you put in, he got what he wanted, and is so happy! :):):)

If what you just relayed about what you did for Derrick is any indication of what you do at work, you must be absolutely fantastic at your job, and your kids must be very lucky to have you on their side :hug:

I have to admit, I wasn't sure the middle of last week that I even really
wanted to work any more. It was such a hard week. But today I
finally feel a lot better. I knew it was the stress of everything going on.

I've still got a couple things I need to re-schedule from cancelling last week.
One being the medical alert. That I'm contemplating putting off till he
moves into his new house. Because I'm afraid we would just have to call and
have them move it again then. And I'm honestly not sure I want to do it twice.
I'm thinking of doing it this summer when we might have some of the changes to his house finished and could do the medic alert then. I'm thinking of
calling the company next week and explaining the situation and just extending the wait. Its just that I'm thinking we might need too.

The next thing is I need to catch his checkbook, and his SSI up getting his
paycheck's in. Which I've got ready to do. So I'm caught up there. I feel better there too. I've gotten fed up with the government here, because they seem to be slacking. So I've kind of wondering why I'm turning it all in when they don't seem to want to do their side. But I know its the person who is doing his case or was. Not sure who does it now. I'll take care of that tomorrow or Friday. Or so.

I have picked up many cases, I have 5 counties, and I've picked up 2 cases in at least 4 counties and 1 in my own County. I believe my big County I might have 3 new ones. I've kind of lost count I need to figure it out. This is the biggest almost week I've had. Its weird, we all have been saying its been slow. And its just snowballed this last almost week. But that is okay. I needed something to do. So I've enjoyed it. A couple are real problem some cases. And then, one hasn't gotten anything to me yet.

Then I did got to spend the day with Dan, Kortni and Harmony. It was a pleasant day. They have been spending time together more and more. I'm seeing much more of a calm Dan, and Kortni is willing to have him do things with them. Like Friday he is going to Walmart to get the month of supplies, then Monday she has an ear appointment, she is taking him with her to help with Harmony. Which is almost not heard of. He usually is not helpful, more a problem. She has been helping him this week, he pulled a bad tooth, but left the roots in. And she helped him make an dentist appointment today. And then is going to take him on the 11th of March. They had re-scheduled from the 6th of March. So that is good. I hate dentist, so it would have had to be my husband otherwise. She will help him go to urgent care if it gets infected and he needs antibiotics before. And its in pain. But its the best they have been in probably almost the two years since Harmony has been here. Its been a nice day.

Derrick had a great two days at work, he also told his behavior therapist all about last week. And she told him he did all he could and did it right. So he felt better. We are just in limbo right now till things are set up for his new provider and he is fine with that. So all is well for two of my son's and I think
it is for Devin too. So this long book is ending right now.

My head and neck is lots better today, I finally got my tension headache under control yesterday. So I'm good. Everyone have a great end of February.

Donna :hug::grouphug:

Donna, you are so good at what you do. am sorry you thought that things were not good and that you thought of quitting.
things work out for a reason.....
(((((HUGS))))