Good news!

M

That is good news Barb but remember, in the words of Dr.Phil...*grin,
we teach people how to treat us. And he needs to learn that you have been badly hurt in the past so he'll need to be extra considerate of your feelings. This does not make you a bad person, this is just being honest about your needs. It only takes a min. to call someone.

Hi Alffe,

He did call me Friday eveing a couple of hours late but I did not get his call because I was on the computer. I only have one phone line. I think you have a great idea to let him know he'll have to handle me with care cause of my past. I just don't know how to go about it yet.

befuddled2

Thank you Mari.

(((Barb))) I'm glad he called even tho it was late in coming. I think you need to take "baby steps" here....lot's of time talking about your history, and his history..You need to set up boundaries and let him know what they are. We all have "baggage" in our lives but unless we let people know what we are feeling...they'll have no clue how to help us.

And, remember to have fun! You're young and life is short!

Thank you Alffe,

I talked to him again today. I called him and he was writing checks and told me he'd call me back. When he called back he apologized for taking so long to call back and it wasn't really out of the ordinary long! We talked for a long time and he got an incoming call when on the phone with me. He had just found out his dad has cancer. He apologized again for not wanting to continue to talk after the bad news. He said he was too upset about his dad to talk. He really sounds human. My ex didn't have any real feelings much less manners.

befuddled2

Got another date this weekend. We've already talked once today and he's going to call me back when he gets back from the grocery store.

befuddled2

Hope you have alot of fun Barbara!!!

Thank you Dorrie.

Chris makes me feel so beautiful and good about myself. He called me back tonight after he went grocery shopping. A neighbor of Chris who lost her husband recently beeped in when Chris and I was talking and he got back to me right away and told me who she was. I asked him did he want to go and talk to her. He said heck no, he didn't want to talk to her, he wanted to talk to me. Sometimes I am fine with Chris but other times like that, my old self comes out and I feel like I'm a no body. He's in no hurry to rush things like a lot of men are. Gosh, where was he all my life?

Since he works tomorrow we'll go out tomorrow night and then we have a day trip planned for the 4th like to the mountains. We even have plans for Saturday.

Sounds good Barbara!!! You seem happy and that is so great!! Hang in there Barbara when it comes to falling back into your old ways. Keep reminding yourself that you ARE a somebody...deserving of love and attention...you are beautiful and very very special. I think Chris is a very lucky man to be dating such a kind caring wonderful lady!!!! Be determined Barbara to be a strong self confident woman...hold your head high Sweetie...you deserve the BEST!!!!!!

I hope you have fun filled dates with Chris that will have you heading to your computer to tell us all about it.
LOTS OFHUGS FOR YOU BARBARA!!!!