Dear BJ,

Therapy goes through phases.
Here is my take -- and I'm not there with you but this is a guess. Please forgive me if I am off.

Sometimes therapy becomes not so much about you but how you react to the therapist. So the RELATIONSHIP with the therapist ends up being the focus for a little while. Maybe you need to spend more time talking about the two of you and how you work together.
Relationships with other people are hugely important in our real life lives. So it makes sense that therapy is a good safe place to work on how we relate to other people.

Write out a list of things and bring it with you.
Or print out your last few posts here and bring them with you.
She wants to help. And it sounds like she has helped you in some areas.

People who are successful in therapy are articulate (I read that somewhere -- seriously.)
The more you can articulate your needs and respond to her requests and issues your way, the more successful your experience might be.

Therapy works when you talk. (Duh. I know that was a duh.)
Maybe you have reached a new stage now and need to talk about what you want out of therapy.


Please tell her (make very clear) your concern about this time of year. I know that you fully intend on getting through this time successfully. Let her become a partner in your success.
Tell her your concerns.


Opening the doors in therapy that you have opened takes courage. You are brave and it sounds like you are trying to move ahead.

You have fought very hard to make progress and have made some successes. Keep fighting.

You are making progress, so what you are doing is working.

M.