[Nikko]

I got a real pretty card from my FIL today it said - on the front Merry Woof, Merry Meow, with a dog and a cat, then inside it said, WE MISS YOU, AND NEVER FORGET, YOU'LL ALWAYS BE MY DAUGHTER IN LAW.

THEN IT SAID WISHING YOU AND MY MOM AND ALL THE PETS, A HAPPY CHRISTMAS AND EVEN A BETTER NEW YEAR.

LOVE DAD AND PETER - PETER IS HIS SIGNIFICANT OTHER.

NOW I WANT TO EMAIL HIM AND THANK HIM FOR THE NICEST CARD THAT BROUGHT TEARS TO MY EYES , BUT I AM DEBATING.

I did send him a card and a Merry Christmas call as I do with many people but got his answering machine, then I get this card.


Hugs, Nikko, Once again.

[DiMarie]

I am not sure what to tell you not knowing the history....
My step father sent a CHristmas card, but is ignorant enough to say I "cannot have my OWn stamp albums back because of what I did to my family." (prosecuting brother for stalking, threats and abuse).

He is trying to clear his concious and that is not right, but it justifies his means to feel he will go to heaven for sending the card.

So I don't know if he really is close to you, sounds like he cares, or is he playing both you and the son?

Maybe just a brief note, no further information he could share.
It does sound like a very kind considerate note to you...
Dianne

PS whateveer you decide, take your time. IF you write, sleep on it re-read and cut out all you can edit....

[Nikko]

I know my FIL is sincere, he has always said that I was the best thing that happened to his son. He has always said that I would always be his daughter in law other times when his son and I had problems.

He knows what transpired was wrong, yet he knows that his son is going through hell now for what he did. He told him to stay in school and he is a grown man now and to deal with his actions. Since when his son called him and said I really F-upped now Dad, and I still love her. Whatever.

Life goes on,,,,,Well this will all be behind his son in Oct of 2007 at least the supervisered probation, and I assume the 36 class's should be done by then, lastly he will still be on unsupervisored probation until April of 2008. I know my Order of Protection is up in Oct of 2007, not sure about the one they put on him.

Well, I hear what everyone says, I really do, but for some reason lately I am sure going backwards, not the card, just everything.

I need a break, a vacation, something. Even my mom is draining me.

Just venting, Hugs, Nikko

[Mari]

Hi, Nikko,
My vote for what it is worth: ignore the card.

My ex-MIL finally stopped calling me after about 10 years. I tried to ignore her calls but sometimes ended up talking to her. I hated talking to her after all I had gone through with her stupid uncaring son. It didn't matter that during the marriage she thought I was great for him or that she was not a bad person. That part of my life was over over over.

Mari

[befuddled2]

Nikko,

Give it some time and then think about what you want to do.

befudddled3

[Dmom3005]

Nikko

I don't have a clue exactly what happened. But I think I'd give
it a little more time. I think the son needs his dad and family
right now. So let them try and be there for him.

Donna