gosh, i'm sorry wiz. but i know how you feel.
my pcp told me to quit working a full 2 yrs before i actually did. i too fought it tooth and nail and pushed myself to the brink of my physical limits.

i tried going PT but knew in my heart my time was limited. when i finally told my neuro that i just couldn't do my work anymore he set in motion a bunch of things to start documenting for my disability application.

and, he didn't even argue with me. he knew too. i had functional capacity testing and was surprised at how poorly i did. that set the stage for disability documentation.

please sit down and talk with your dr. and come clean to your dh.
when i finally stopped working i was so relieved. all my stress was gone.
it wasn't a quick process to get approved but in the end was worth it.