Hi.

My ex husband and I have recently (January) become involved in each other's lives again due to things going on with our children. He has had some serious health issues over the last ten years (7 of them we were divorced for). Although the past cannot be changed, we are now trying to sort things and really figure out which way is up.

He has broken his back and neck three times now due to work. He's been having serious headaches that are crippling, cause him to be sick and completely out of commission for a few days at a time. It was 6 months in between, then a few months, then a month now just two weeks in between each spell.

Insurance sent a letter saying it was a Colloid Cyst which was a Life Finding and there was nothing further they could do to change the health and stability of his life. The doctor and a lawyer are trying to fight for more help or tests. My question is....how do we deal with this? How do I be there for him? Is this really as bad as it sounds when I look it up and read about it? Where it is located, on his brain stem, it is causing a lot of spinal issues. Numbness, headaches, swelling, tingling etc. The doctors said it is in fact inoperable.

I guess I want some hope. Something to hold on to. Someone to explain what all of this mean so I can try to comfort him, our three children and make sense of it all myself. Thank you for any help or feedback.