I am new here looking for new friends who wont disown me/judge my family because of my teen.
I am wanting to vent my feelings to whom ever may understand about this hard to understand disorder. I just want to know that I am not a failure and only want the best for my child. I want to meet others who know what I am going through! I have been shunned by my whole neighborhood and then some because they don't understand. I am soooo mentally tired and physically drained due to my Teen daughter. I feel so sad for her because I have done everything I know, with all the resources I have to help her. She continues to get worse and I cant seem to do anything for her. She might be leaving our family due to behaviors that the law is involved. I am torn due to Its out of my hands, but then I want her gone which makes me feel horrible for feeling that way. Sad Momma, Daddy, Brother.

Just wanting to feel like I am not a bad parent here. Needing understanding.

Welcome to Neuro Talk. You are not alone in this. Parenting, no matter how hard you try, sometimes things just go wrong. As a parent you get hurt, because you feel a failure. I know, I feel that way too, and have gone through the loss you are now facing. My daugher married a controlling man, I have no contract with her, and it devistated me, to the core. I also have a grandchild I am not permitted to see or know, he is 4 years old now. Sometimes, no matter how hard you try, things in a family just don't work out. You didn't fail anymore than I did. ____t Happens. It can happen to the best of people. I am sorry your neighbors, have reacted as they have. You do need support. I went for council for a number of years. I also have a friend who is a psychologist, who tried without success to intervene on my behalf. Maybe council would help you through the hard parts. Keep coming back to Neuro Talk. I have found good friends here, who do not judge, or condemn me because this happened. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. I will also listen. ginnie

We have 4 adopted children and 1 adopted granddaughter. Boy 24, Girl 22, boy 17, girl 16 and grand baby 3. We went through foster care because I could not have children. Each one of my children were drug babies. We only took babies between 6weeks to 6 mos. The oldest had many problems in the beginning, adhd, conduct disorder, and impulsive disorder. He was not an easy child and went the way of drugs and living on the streets to this day He fathered 3 children that I will never get to see. Next child is Bipolar and would run away constantly at 17. She refused getting help so we have her first born baby and she is now prego with her 3rd. Last two kids are half siblings, Same mom, different dads. My son has struggled through many things but is my successful kid who wants to make something of his life. He has many issues to get through but I think he will be okay. Then his sister I have had behavior problems since she could talk. We have lived with her constant anger and mood swings for sooo many years that we don't know how to have fun anymore as a family. We are prisoners in our own home having to watch her every move, locks on all doors and wondering what was gonna happen next. She refuses counseling, and mouths at the physiatrist. She has been to a resident treatment facility one time, and our insurance wont approve her again due to her not going to counseling. Grrr. One of us needs to be home with her due to all the bad stuff she has done. The police have now put an ankle moniter on her. I could go on but Id have to write a book to tell my life with her. I appreciate your support and understanding in our situation. I am going to do counseling soon for me to better cope.

Wow, Netterz.

To say you have so much on your plate sounds like a feeble platitude ... if you'll forgive the almost-pun.

that's good you plan to start counseling for yourself - even just supportive talk therapy would be great in such a situation. besides, a professional could probably give some solid practical advice on how to handle the family situations, as well as help with emotional coping techniques.

welcome to the forums. and i wish you well.

waves

LostinLa,

It is great to have you come and be with us. You will fine a great number of dear friends to listen when you are in need of ears. Please, just let us know how we can help you out. You will find out we are supportive and relaxing place.

Thank you so much of what you are doing for your children. There are not many people of this world today that will take in the needy ones.

Please keep us up to date on your situation. Again welcome, looking forward to seeing you around. My thoughts and prayers are with you.